I like a guy, and its my friends old crush. Then right when i was about to tell her i liked him, she said she wasnt over him. and my other friend is trying to get me to ask him out for her coz she likes him to , but she doesnt know i like him. And then we are doing dancing at school and he asks me to be his partner and i said yes. Then he asked me out but im no sure if he was kidding so i said no. I want to ask him out but i dont want my friends to get hurt. One of my friends knows and shes mad but shes still my friend coz she knows that he wont go out with her. What should i do? My friend never actually went out with him because he said no because she was to shy and he didnt like her anyway.
2007-12-10 16:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Neither of my friends actually went out with him.
2007-12-10 16:34:59 · update #1
First of all you can't help who he likes. Second, you should just come clean with both your friends. Discuss you situations just as you explained it to us here. Then hopefully your friends will understand that maybe it just wasn't meant to be for them. Don't let a guy ruin your friendship. In this case honesty is the best policy.
2007-12-10 16:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Scarlett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can hurt her if you go out with him while she still likes him. But it's his choice. If he chose you, then there's really nothing that she can do about that. You're not gonna keep away for the sole fact that she likes him, right? It seems like loyalty to do so, but then again, if you really like him, it hurts you. The only difference? In my opinion it is easier to get over someone who is going out with your friend and finding someone else than restricting yourself from a relationship that you know you could be in.
But that's my opinion, and it can be the other way around sometimes.
Ask yourself. What hurts more? Living with the fact that you know you could be with him but don't want to just because your friend likes him (not like you're stealing him away if he doesn't like her) or her losing her crush to her friend?
2007-12-11 00:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..well i think that you have just the same amount of right to like him as they do. and if he asks you out or just tells you he likes you, how is that your fault? i do not think that your friends should be mad at you because the guy may like you instead of them...but the best thing to do first is to talk to them about it and explain your position. and that you really like him and would love to go out with him but do not want to ruin the friendships because of it...but i think true friends wouldnt stand in the way of you being happy just because they may like the same guy too. good luck sweetie
2007-12-11 00:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cori M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down first. It's okay to date with your friend's ex-boyfriend. They're already over, is a pass tense. Your others friend should be clear with their mind, is not your fault to date with him. They shouldn't blame you and should understand you. But is this guy that good? How's his personality? Good Luck.
2007-12-11 00:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by fiona lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends and guys never go well, if you want to keep your friend you should first consider how she would feel and then maybe pick up the currage and tell her how you feel friends are forever guys arent always!!
2007-12-11 00:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by ella bieracki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him a lot, go out with him.. its not your fault he doesnt like your friends...... however it will probably ruin your friendship with the girls.....& do you care?.
2007-12-11 00:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋