There is this girl who I went to high school with. I have wanted to be with her since the first time I saw her. Now that we have graduated, she keeps coming over to my house every other week.
Last time I asked her out, she said that she was with someone. She is still with this person but I feel that her coming over to my house and spending so much time with me, is her way of telling me that she wants me to ask her again.
I know that she has had problems with her current boyfriend in the past but at this point I am not sure how to proceed. I want her to like me but I don't know if she wants me or if she just wants to keep in touch.
Someone help me figure this out.
2007-12-10 16:17:15 · 17 answers · asked by Brian E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She lives about 20 minutes away from me but she is always calling. Just this weekend she wanted me to come see her play an elf at the mall. She wanted to get a picture of me and her. I don't really think that coming straight out and telling her to dump her current bf is the right way to go.
2007-12-10 16:29:58 · update #1
She is probably confused. She is interested in you, maybe because she finds comfort in you, or maybe she really just likes you, or maybe both. Doesn't it hit you that she maybe getting strength from you to put up with her boyfriend? You have to be careful, sometimes people get vulnerable and weak, and make some decisions they regret later. But still, you should be open to her, though you know you are vulnerable too. Love is taking risks anyway.
2007-12-10 16:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by gammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are there for her when she needs you and don't try to pursue anything, she will really respect you for being such a good friend. When she breaks up with her current boyfriend, be sure to be her shoulder to cry on. However, don't ask her out immediately. Make sure you give her a few weeks to let her heal her wound and then pursue her. She should be able to realize what a great person you are after all you have given her and then she will want to be with you! Whatever you do, don't cause her to cheat on her boyfriend. That is sleezy.
2007-12-11 00:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by laudie3a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask her out. There really isn't any harm in doing so. It is her decision, so as long as you aren't forcing or doing anything like that, then it's fine to ask her out again. It probably will not result in anything other than another no.
However I am not sure if she wants to break up with her boyfriend for you. She's probably only coming over to your house because you are a good friend that she wants to hang out with.
2007-12-11 00:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she wants you because if someone is with someone else they shouldn't be making frequent stops at someones house. I would tell her that you really like her, enjoy hanging out and want to be with her. But tell her she cant keep coming over if she's with someone else so she needs to decide if she wants to be with you or her current boyfriend. Chances are she'll choose you
2007-12-11 00:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by bmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she likes you otherwise she wouldn't be coming over so much. You need to talk to her the next time she comes over because if her intentions are to stay with her current bf then she is just playing you. If she does like you then she needs to break up with her bf first before you move on. Just talk with her and see what she says.
2007-12-11 00:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by pink86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im kind of in that situation right now...only i wud be the girl. i have a bf but im feeling very underappreciated lately and theres a very good guy friend who i have been spending lots of time with and its becoming more than a friendship. bottom line- if this girl is anything like me she DOES like you and wants to ditch her man but isnt sure if u still like her. so ask her out. the worst that can happen is she says no and ur still friends anyway,right?
2007-12-11 00:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by babyblooz88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her out again. If she's going to leave her boyfriend she'll do it. Otherwise you'll ask again and she'll just tell you no because she's with the other guy. Wait it out. If she ends up breaking up with him, then ask her out.
If she wants to keep coming over, let her just to keep the friendship.
2007-12-11 00:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's inappropriate for her to be talking to you about her boyfriend and spending so much time with you. Tell her. Then go find something else to occupy your time. If she breaks up with him, then you can talk to her, but if she's going to do this to him (come on to another guy while she's taken) she WILL do it to you.
2007-12-11 00:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy Burb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make her jealous by talking abt other gals,if she really needs u then she feel jealous & propose her again dat time by conveying u was kidding & if not then she dont have any feeling for u.
2007-12-11 00:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by leaves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. Always be ready when she comes over and have interesting things for her to do. A movie, games, ect.
2007-12-11 00:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lonnie M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋