5 months ago i fell in love with a girl who had a boyfriend and i couldnt have her, i cried over her every night and still do, i still love this girl and it hurts me so much, how long will it take me to fully get over her and for me to stop crying, everytime i see her or her myspace picture it makes my heart melt. what can i do to get over her faster n how long will it take?
2007-12-10 16:14:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Scientist say it is two week to every month that you were together.
Reality and experience tell me that you never really "get over" those things. You simply move on, and take whatever lessons you need to from the situation.
All failed loves teach us what we will eventually need to give to our soul mate. Have fun looking :)
2007-12-10 16:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by glassesguru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's that lust that's making you cry, not love. If you love her you'd be happy for her happiness and let her be. It's really that simple. I thought I loved a guy because he was visually everything I dreamed a guy should look, like his image was for me specifically, and he meant well, but he wasn't right for me. He broke my heart when he chose to be with someone else, while making attempts to be with me. I cried for days. I took days off from school because I would occassionally just break down like there was a death in the family. I truly thought it was love, but I was so angry and so so sad at the same time that I even plotted revenge on him, which was stupid. Later on we got our friendship back and I realized I could never really let the anger go and I just didn't like him as a person for what he did to me, yet I still wanted to throw him against a wall and have sex, which as I think back shows me that it was lust, really really strong lust. For what it's worth, I was looking at his myspace picture yesterday and I haven't seen him in almost two years. Sometimes I don't think about it, and sometimes I gotta make myself pissed off at him and remember why it never worked out. It broke me down and I just didn't feel that passion I felt for him towards anyone after that because he discouraged my heart. It took away a good chunk of my hope. All you can do is look for someone who is everything you want on the outside. Looks aren't everything and very very deceiving.
2007-12-11 00:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly that happens to me too many times. There really isn't a way to get over her. I am pretty sure you will always like her.
Moving on will take a very long time. Don't focus on her too much. Eventually you'll notice other girls and while you will still like that one girl, your heart won't melt when you see her. Instead, that will be on a different girl.
2007-12-11 00:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When theres a guy I like, and i'm in the same situation as you I try to divert my attention away from him as much as possible. It works to find someone else to fall in love with. And instead of thinking about them at night think of someone else, instead of looking at her myspace do something else. The pain will go away in time.
2007-12-11 00:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Brittlez Skittlez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised how easy it is to get over someone when you find somebody else. Just start talking to random girls and see if something happens with any of them and you will be over that girl instantly.
2007-12-11 00:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by burgler09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking at her myspace, look around and try to find someone else. It should not take long just don't look at her and convince yourself that there is someone better
2007-12-11 00:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get drunk and keep urself busy. try talking2 other girls too. You are young and it is a learning experience
2007-12-11 00:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋