I just had a baby four weeks ago and of course I can't have sex until my six week check up. He acts like he doesn't know that or just doesn't care but all he wants to do is have sex. Every day I get bothered either to do that or do HIM somethin ya know. Well all I wanted to know is if he is a sex addict and what I could do to help him.
2007-12-10 15:49:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, just insensitive.
2007-12-10 16:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he's an "addict" based on your question, but he definitely needs to lay off for a while. I'm sure he's under a lot of stress right now as most parents are when a new baby arrives, but you need to talk to him and explain that you're still healing and that sex is just out of the question right now. I've not had a baby yet, but I don't imagine myself feeling up to BJs with a month old baby keeping me up at night and wearing me out all day. I think you just need to be assertive with your husband and let him know that he's just going to have to be patient. Trust me - it won't kill him. I'm sure there are a lot of married people having sex less frequently than every 6 weeks anyway.
2007-12-10 16:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely just sexually frustrated since it's been four weeks or so since he has had sex. If he is like this constantly, even throughout the pregnancy and before it, then he might be a sex addict (sex addicts usually want sex numerous times a day and their daily routine is effected by thoughts of sexual activity). Since you can't have sex quite yet, try and please him other ways if you feel up to it.
2007-12-10 15:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's often an underlying fear in a husband that he'll be "replaced" by the baby and lose his wife's affection. The husband may not even understand that his strong urge for sex at this time is to seek reassurance that his wife still loves him and he hasn't been replaced. You don't have to satisfy him, but you'll get less pressure if you talk with him about this and reassure him of his importance ro you.
2007-12-10 18:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a sex addict. My husband was the same way. couldn't wait till the 6 weeks ended. If you have stopped bleeding you can have sex. Just be gentle and all will be well.
2007-12-10 16:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if he's a sex addict. Although it sounds like he is inconsiderate of your well being. He should wait until your ready and when the Doctor says it's okay. I know all men don't do this because my husband didn't. I think he needs a reality check.
2007-12-10 15:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to 'go take care' of himself and leave you alone. How very rude of him to pester you for sex at this time. . He's not an addict, just a typically insensitive man. .
2007-12-10 16:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by emo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably excited your no longer pregnant and wants that body of yours back and is making himself horny thinking about it and is attracted to you.
2007-12-10 17:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes just very selfish
2007-12-10 15:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by razawire 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hes probably just sexual fusterated just try to do something to keep his mind off if it.
2007-12-10 15:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by lindsaykinz. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋