What happens if you ask out a girl and she says no!?

Question

I'm scared of that happening, can anyone tell me how to properly ask out a girl (in a polite manner, no cheesy or demeaning pickup lines). <---- Main objective
If the girl does say no, will I ever be able to show my face to her again? <---- Critical Question
And not to demonize all girls, but do girls talk to other people about how they got asked out and how they rejected someone? <---- Important, girls please Answer!!!!!!!
It would be good If I got a lot of answers for this question.

Thank You

Guys please don't answer, I think this requires a female perspective. Thank you for your input though.

Answer 1

first of all just be confident. (confidence is one of the sexiest things about a person) just go up 2 her and b like hey can i talk 2 u? and ask her. if she rejects you just be like ok thats cool... try not to let it get to u. most important dont let her know if it really got 2 u. just keep ur head up, dont go crying in front of her or somethin. and yes sometimes chicks do tell ppl, but just b like yah i liked her, got rejected life goes on. Good luck : ]

Answer 2

If she says "no", then you don't have a date. Of course, just like guys talk, so do girls...it's inevitable. Strike up whatever it is you have in mind on the spur of the moment type thing has always been my favorite. You know, it's after class or whatever and you suggest you two stop by the Starbucks or whatever for coffee. It's a casual, non-committal way to ask someone out with facing total rejection. A coffee offer always welcomes a rain-check. So, if she says "no", it's no big deal. And you can easily toss in a "maybe some other time." Then after you've been rejected a few times and she isn't taking the bait, you've lost nothing. All you have to do is quit asking. If she does have some kind of interest and just wasn't available for coffee, she will approach you in the future to test the waters. Trust me. I'm an old woman that has lived hard and long...there isn't much I haven't seen and the above is a classic...do you watch old movies?

Answer 3

yes we have our little knitting circles where we make mean lists and we tell stories about guys who we totally rejected like they are little prizes in our purses.
When it's the right girl asking her out is easy. It just comes to you. The way you talk to each other just makes it easier. Because it's a unique form of communication that only you and her will share.
If she rejects you or says no...there's always a multitude of reasons why a girl would say no. It's not always that she just doesn't like you but she just may be looking for something else.
If rejection happens just take it like a man. The last thing a girl wants is a guy friend of hers to start acting weird and childish when she has politely turned him down. Just keep things neutral. Don't avoid her because then she'll think that's all you ever wanted of her and didn't value her friendship. Girls need guy friends too. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Ok, so, this is what I ve found. The best thing you can do, if that happens to you, is to find someone else. What every girl on here is basically saying is, BE CONFIDENT, and IF SHE SAYS NO, DONT LET IT GET TO YOU. So. How do these things happen in other situations?

A perfect example.
Im playing basket ball, and I shoot the ball towards the hoop. Does it go in? Yes. Nice, I scored a basket. Im happy. Not that happy. What happens if I miss? Oh well, who cares. It s just basketball. How do I get better at scoring baskets? Practice. Dont wait to find the love of your life, and then think about it for months and months should I ask her? shouldnt I ask her? I dont know, Im scared! You dont wait around and never shoot the ball at the basketball hoop until you think your ready! And if you miss, you are so disheartened, you never play again.

Its just like basketball man. If she s really really hot, then, analogous to basket ball, maybe lower the hoop a little. Get better at scoring lower baskets before you try the 10 footer, lol.

Stay light, stay happy, dont let it get to you, and keep on playing. That s how "she" will say yes in the end.

Answer 5

When you ask the question make it very specific. For instance "I was thinking of going for a burger after school do you want to come with me?" That way if she says no, she is only saying no to going for a burger - its not such an outright rejection and leaves the door open for another time.

As a teenager if a boy asked me out I was so embarrassed that I always said no automatically. After I had thought about it I regretted it every time. The boy that said something specific like the burger thing meant that the next day I could say to him sorry about yesterday I was busy but if the invite is open for another day I'd love to come.

Girls do talk about who asked them out and who they rejected, they also talk about who rejected them. It's all part and parcel of growing up and you shouldn't let it get to you that much!! At the end of the day they can only say no right?? And anything else is a bonus!! No only hurts your pride and you can bounce back from that!!

Answer 6

Ok, be confident...yes girls talk but its not bad and if she says no that means shes not interested in being in more then a friend ship with you, you will be able to show your face, once this happens IF this happens shell blow it off and youll be friends once again. But when you go about it just say i dont want to take a chance in messing up our friendship, but i have feeling for you and i was wondering how you felt tords me.... wait for the response then take it from there, or you can have a mutual friend that you trust ask her how she feels about you, have him relay the message back to you then depending on how that goes ask her to hang out go for pizza or to a movie or something small to start off. If she likes you as a friend she will be kind about saying no but if she lieks you more she will say yes, remeber this is all part of life you get rejected and you reject its all the big anoying prossec of finding the one. GOOD LUCK you can do it!

Answer 7

well think of it this way, you can spend your whole life worrying about what she will say, or you can find out what she will say.

If you don't know this girl at all, you'll have to start with some small talk first, like school etc, family....then it everyting goes really well you can always say, OH would you like to continue this conversation, say friday night over dinner?

Or maybe even something more casal like, Hey I'm trying to get some Christmas shopping done this weekend...would you like to come with me...maybe we could have lunch, see a movie, go ice skating as well......

She might say no...she might say, sorry, I don't go out with losers, or More Importantly, she might say yes!! If you act confident when you ask her, she will most likely say yes!!


Yes girls do talk to other girls about who wasked them out, who they think is hot,who they are going out with, what they did, if they had sex..all that stuff...


Things that you are overly worried about, like your ""critical question"", you shouldn't even be thinking about!~!!!

OH and by the way, DO NOT FOLLOW JH's suggestion of going up to some girl and telling her you have a thing for her!!! That you LOVE her, or anything else along those lines.
NEVER. Play it cooooool. Do not follow NATALIA's suggestion under any circumstance.

Answer 8

a polite way to ask is just the straight forward "will you go out with me?". anything else i think would be wayy to complicated for a first-timer. if they say no, YES you will be able to show your face to her again. not immediatly of course. it will take some time for the awkwardness to fade over. as most people know, girls love to talk. they'll talk to people they barely know. she probably wont go around spewing all of the dirty details about how she said no and what not. she would definatly go around to people saying that you asked her out. DONT WORRY! it happens to everyone, even if they dont get rejected. just deal with it, and in time this little "nightmare" will end soon enough. when you ask her though, have more confidence in youself. a girl likes confidence, but not cockyness!

Answer 9

I think the most important thing is not being too pushy or seeming too eager - You don't want a girl to say yes just because she feels sorry for you or doesn't know what else to say. Also keep in mind that if she says no, that really doesn't change a whole lot for you (you weren't dating when you wanted to ask her & now you're still not dating). Try asking someone that your familiar with, not a complete stranger.

Answer 10

Have a conversation centered around something you both like to do..or see, museums,movies, plays, what ev

Ask her if she would like to be your guest or go with you to see???? or do????

Does she like sports? The best way to engage in sincere conversation is to look her in the eye and ask questions about HER. When she answers one, ask another. Maintain eye contact and don't look at the ground or pick your nails or answer your cell.. Mirror her emotions and gestures. She will automatically recognize that as compatibility.

When you mirror someone. Talk in the same tempo, as her, with the same amount of enthusiasm. Be yourself.

When you connect with someone, and you'll know, she won't go around talking smack or down about you. She will be amazed when she sees you are genuine! If she does make fun of you in any way or reject you in a hurt full manner...you don't want her kind anyway.

You go, dude!