If you had a 23 year old responsible daughter who doesn't party, drink, use drugs, or hang out with the wrong crowd would you give her a curfew at night? If so what time would be reasonable?
2007-12-10 14:56:25 · 24 answers · asked by stpolycarp77 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You've answered your own question! If the daughter is responsible, doesn't party, drink, use drugs or hang out with the wrong crowd, there would be no reason to impose a curfew on her! Unless there are special circumstances, like pursuing a degree, sickness, recuperation, etc., responsibility would also seem to imply she also has a job and pays something toward her room and board.
2007-12-10 19:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by trebor namyl hcaeb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter where you live you have to live by the rules of that establishment. If you think your daughter should be in by a certain time then that is the rule she has to live by. She can always live someplace where the rules are different. There is no reason to argue about a curfew. If she is responsible doesn't drink, party, use drugs, or hang out with the wrong crowd then why does she need a curfew. Likewise if she is this responsible person why would she care if their is a curfew.
2007-12-10 15:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 23 and living at home, basically, I didn't have a curfew. I would call my mom to let her know if I was going to be out late, and what I was doing, and as long as she knew that, she wasn't concerned. At 23, I was occasionally working overnights, so my parents really couldn't set a curfew.
It is totally up to the parents though, since the 23 yr old is still living at home. I would feel as long as they communicate how long they think they will be out and call if they have had too much to drink, then I really don't see the need for a curfew.
2007-12-10 15:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
My soon to be 23 year old daughter just recently moved back home. She does not have a curfew, but...I do expect her to have respect of house rules. She can come and go as she pleases, but as I explained to her, just because she is an adult, I am still a mom, and I do worry when it is very late and I have no clue of where she is, so I do appreciate a call if she plans to not come home, other wise I begin to worry that she is laying on the side of a road somewhere needing help. But as far as her social life, that is 100% her call. It is a fine line.
2007-12-10 15:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more rules you impose, the sooner she'll move out. Is that what you want? If so, impose an early curfew. She'll tire of your silly rules and leave home, which may be a good idea.
And you don't know for sure what she's doing when she's out of the house, do you? She's 23 and doesn't drink or drugs and hangs out with the right kids? Possible, but not likely.
2007-12-10 23:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your house and if you're thinking about it enough to post a question about it on Yahoo, then something tells me you're not completely OK having your daughter coming and going as she pleases. Not to sound blunt, but you'd probably like a little predictability and stability in your life especially because it sounds like you've done your job well but now your "direct" parenting has gone into extra innings.
Don't think of it as a "curfew".
Think of it as a..."Hey. We're all adults here. If you're gonna stay out, stay out. But I like to know that we're all locked up for the night at a certain time."
Coming in late at night is disrupting.
Or maybe you love having her there and appreciate the company? (I'm sure you do. Spending time with the kids is golden)
But if you're unsure enough to make a post, chances are you want your time and total control of your house and schedule back (which doesn't mean you don't love the hell out of her).
Give her a "curfew".
2007-12-10 16:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by mirzai_m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, she shouldn't have a curfew at all. If she chooses to hang out over night, the best you could expect is a call home to say "I'm going to be out tonight."
2007-12-10 15:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A responsible 23 year old should have her own place. BUT if you are living with your parents you have to abide by their rules, no matter how old you are. They probably want you home at a certain time so they aren't up all night worrying.
2007-12-10 16:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by casper 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't give her a curfew. She is old enough and she has proven to be a responsible adult so why would i give her a curfew. Let her be.
2007-12-11 04:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not give her a curfew. Why would you? She is an adult and sounds like a very responsible one. Let her be.
2007-12-10 19:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋