and I care about him deeply and I know deep down he wishes I would reconsider us being together... since he mentioned it a few times. We dated for over 5 years and many times during the relationship I wondered if I was feeling things the way I was supposed to.
I know now that I don't love my ex the way he wants me to. I know because I am in love with someone else although he and I are not in a relationship. I haven't told my ex about how I feel about this other guy because I know it would break his heart.
Again, I love my ex, but not in the way he wants me to. A big part of me says that we shouldn't be friends anymore because I feel like I'm leading him on although he doesn't think we will get back together. At the same time, I am having a hard time letting go since we've helped each other deal with so many of life's ups and downs. We've been friends for over 10 years because we connect on a deep level, just not on a romantic level (on my end).
What should I do?
2007-12-10 14:45:31 · 7 answers · asked by Krysta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you both can be friends, but still move on with your lives....date other people, etc. then there shouldn't be any reason to stop being friends. However, if being friends is keeping one of you or both of you from moving on and finding someone else, then it probably would be better to stop seeing each other. It's hard to stay friends with exes for that very reason. It's so hard to watch the person you once loved love someone else.
2007-12-10 14:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you start talking to him about your new interests ... he'll either stick around to be your friend or he'll back away knowing that his chances may really be over ... but if the two of you are meant to be friends why lose the friendship. I have ex's that we parted because I didn't think I could handle it, but we really were good friends and found each others thoughts comforting ... through many relationships. Good luck.
2007-12-10 22:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him as a friend. You said so yourself that your friend doesn't think that the two of you will get back together. You're not leading him on if he's not following. It's always good to have that one strong friend that you can aways depend on. Don't throw that away just because you're seeing something that may not be there.
2007-12-10 22:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by AnarchyONtheSHORTbus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear you care for him as a friend but nothing more. Tell him you still want to be friends but he needs to understand that is all it will ever be. I don't see a reason to end the friendship unless he doesn't accept your terms. Best of luck!
2007-12-10 22:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stop being his friend i mean losing a friend sucks a lot especially when you have been friends for over 10 years. friend ship is very hard to find and when you do find a true friend that is there for you 24/7 then you don't just throw it all away like that
2007-12-10 22:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by VMKFreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what is in your ex's best and highest interests. That will tell you what to do.
2007-12-10 22:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him forget about you, he will recover and find someone new...LOSE CONTACT
2007-12-10 22:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋