I just ended a 4 year relationship because he was sure that I was the one, but I knew that he wasn't the one for me.
It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done because I still care about him, just not in love anymore the way he loves me. I wasn't being fair to him.
Anyway, what's it like when you meet someone and you just "know" they're it. What does it feel like? I know relationships take work, but I think when I meet the right guy I won't have to work so hard. It will just flow. Am I right?
I just need some reassurance that I have done the right thing.
2007-12-10 14:40:31 · 5 answers · asked by lisee11087 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's something you just know, and it's unexplainable really. If you knew in your heart that you don't love him, then you did the right thing. I was in a similar situation myself, I just knew I didn't love him they way I should, wasn't fair to him, or to me, or to the one I'm supposed to be with.
Hang in there, you'll find it.
2007-12-10 14:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Hazy Daisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Anything after you realize that he's not who you want to be with, is just wasted time.
I was in a 4 year relationship that ended because he felt that I wasn't the one. I took some time and just dated around but then out of the blue I met this guy and we clicked right away. After a year and a half, we have come up with so many instances where we could have met because we were in the same place at the same time (certain events made it easy to track the exact days). One event in particular could have been tragic because he was walking out of a building and I was walking into the same building but changed my mind and walked away moments before a fire broke out. But I believe that we were both meant to be safe that day because we were meant to meet up 21 years later. And all those near meetings never happened because the time wasn't right then. I never believed in a soul mate until I met him and that is how I knew that he's "the one".
2007-12-10 22:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I knew my wife was the one when we had our first big fight. Although we are both stubborn people, and we said lots of things that we didn't mean, it all became so unimportant. Oh, and if you believe that you don't feel the same about him, then you made the right choice. You don't want to lead him on.
2007-12-10 22:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes becuase if he was the one you're right you'd know it and if this is how you feel now just imagine 25-30 yrs from now you'll know then what you knew all along but wasted your life with the wrong one so trust your gut it never fails
2007-12-10 22:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Vanessa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet that perfect person its like everything in your life just clicks together like a jigsaw puzzle....im not in love(i hope) and she doesnt necessarily know how exactly i feel about her but if i had to choose one person to spend the rest of my life with, i think it would be her
2007-12-10 22:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by corkydw89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋