Just wondering what other's opinions are, whether you were an only child or have an only child. I have a 2 year old and would like to have another child, but my hubby is ambivalent about it. If it were just my feelings to consider, then I wouldn't mind not having another because he is the whole center of my world and has all of the love I can give, but he's only 2 and he enjoys all the attention and time he spends with us now, but as he gets older I think he would like a sibling to play with. I have an older brother and older sister. They were a complete pain in the butt growing up, but looking back, my life would have been so different and so empty without them. So I guess I am ambivalent too, it's hard to imagine loving another as much as I love him. Any opinions or advice would be appreciated! Thanks!
2007-12-10 14:11:36 · 17 answers · asked by luvbabysky 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have an older brother, and I love having him around. Sometimes I wish that he was closer to my age so that I could of spent more time with him, I sure do miss him a lot. He's 25 and lives on his own, spends most of his time chasing a girl and barely ever talks to us anymore. It's great to have a sibling though, whenever there is a problem there's somebody to talk to around your own age that isn't an adult or just a friend. Nobody can replace the bond you get with a sibling, no matter how hard they try. So yes, I think that it's good to have a sibling, and wouldn't change it for the world!
2007-12-10 14:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a older sister and older brother and younger brother.
I also have two children of my own, my dad was an only child. Also, my two older siblings each have one child a piece. They call my mom sometimes saying how lonely their child is without someone else to play with. My two nieces are spoiled rotten and so smart, because they have the money to spend on the one child. I love the fact that I have two, wish I could of had more. Sure it's hard, but I am so blessed to have some of the best kids in the world.
Here's looking at more kids for ya!
2007-12-10 14:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by rettasmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an only child and I couldn't imagine it ant other way, but then as I got older I wished I had a sibling. If any thing happens to my parents I will be the only one. I have a daughter and going to have a son soon. I want my children to know they have friend/love for life when things look down for them. Being an only child is very lonely for me. My husband has a younger brother who is 16 and my husband and I are 20 and 21 he now treats both of us like siblings and I love that. I think siblings are a great thing and you need to sit your husband down and have a calm talk about it with both of you hearing each other sides. Just make sure you just don't want another because you miss your son being a baby. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-12-10 14:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Professionals it's all about love and pleasure youngsters are a gift from God it's a joy sharing your love and your life with kids it's a pleasure looking at kids learn and develop children come up with the money for mother and father a first-class feel of cause and motivation in lifestyles kids support mothers and fathers to be taught and grow as mother and father and as human beings CONS youngsters are a important, fundamental, most important 24 hour a day, 8 day every week accountability require much time require a lot awareness have all types of fees father and mother' time, existence and cash are no longer their own sacrifices need to be made as they grow, dad and mom can educate their kids, have an effect on and motivate their kids; nevertheless, they're their possess humans and mothers and fathers cannot "manage" their kids and what they do with their lives there are factors in their lives and things to be able to occur which mum and dad cannot manipulate (i.E., wellbeing) there will likely be times when kids/parenthood will frustrate, irritate and even stress mom and dad OR matters which take place of their lives
2016-08-06 10:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide it has to be a decision that you BOTH agree on. I personally think a child is better off with a sibling or two. It's less lonely and you have each other if anything happens to your parents. Only children tend to be spoiled of course. It seems like only children ALWAYS want a sibling. I have one child and I want to have one more. Just as much as I want the baby for myself, I want the baby for my child to have a sibling. I just feel like it's the best thing for her. If you don't have another one, just know that lots of only children grow up happy and wonderful. Good luck!
2007-12-10 15:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child and my hubby has 2 sisters
we wanted more children originally but decided to only have 1
she is wonderful,not spoiled,shares well because we do playdates and playgroups and she will be able to choose any college she wishes to go to because we will only be saving for her
we can give her more personal attention and help her more when she needs it
we DONT spoil her instead of a lot of stuff she has a savings account for college or whatever in the future
as per cons
we dont have any because we make sure that she's not spoiled and that she is socialized and has friends her age
i can understand the pros in siblings to but this is just what we decided even though we could easily afford a second child
2007-12-10 15:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by squeaker 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm the oldest of eight and I wish I were an only child. Some of the people here automatically think brothers and sisters are there for fun and support and learning. That's not what I experienced, nor what I see from other adults.
SIblings are a drain on time and resources. No one I know really, really likes ALL their brothers and sisters. If families were so much fun, then why do most people dread the holidays?
Naw, we have an only child and are happy as h*ll. So is he.
2007-12-10 23:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Pros are it's less expensive. Cons are that the first born will never have a sibling, no one to grow up with, their kids will never have an aunt or uncle on that side, the only child has to deal with parents' deaths on their own...no sibling support....
I have an older sister and we had to go through the death of our mother....could not imagine going through it alone like that.
2007-12-10 14:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Siblings are the longest relationship your child will have with any person. They are born around the same time and when parents pass still have one another to lean on and that closeness they shared as children.
Only children sometimes have problems with dealing with their peers,sharing,and are lonely kids when they have no other sibling to share their childhood with.
Its fun to have siblings to play with, and grow with and have someone who looks at life as another child just like they do.
Its your choice but I personally would not intentionally have one child only.
2007-12-10 17:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times only childs are very selfish and spoiled because they don't have to share there toys or stuff with anyone. but if you have another child he or she will have to learn to share and tolerate another human being. having a brother or sister is having a person 2 talk too and do fun stuff with
2007-12-10 14:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋