I posted a Q about my gf being raped. Well her mother HATES me . I mean she can't stand me. She actually told my soon to be fiance, that she doesn't want her to have kids with me because im not good. And i'm trying my best to fit all of her needs since I'm done being mad and i know she was hurt. She completely ran to her mother. But she says that she loves me. She said she needs her mother for "support" so she can heal. But i think thats bullcrap. Becuase she acts liek im not trying to help her get better. Why does she even need her mother, IM HERE. I just want to call everything off. I want too leave her. What should i do. And i knwo she was raped and im not trying to be an ***. But im just pissed. And imnot gunna let her mother ruin the life og the kids that i want with her. What should i do???
2007-12-10 14:09:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has a disturbed mind and marrying her would be inviting trouble.
Do as you please, but if she goes, it is not your loss.
2007-12-10 14:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you flying off the handle?! If the relationship with your girlfriend is a good one, it will stand the test of time. How OLD are you two anyway? Sure, she may want her mom to comfort her. For one thing, her mother is another woman and understands something of the trauma she is going through. For another, she's her MOTHER. While your girlfriend may be slightly immature, she may be entitled to be a little immature if she's young! How OLD is the person you to whom you are referring? And YOU sound immature too. Why don't you understand that this is a long-term problem that will require patience and understanding? This is not a competition between you and her mother - or at least it shouldn't be. You BOTH should be supportive and patient. You sound very possessive. If not her mother, then she could well have gone to another woman, such as a girlfriend or a sister, for comfort and understanding. Remember, you are only a boyfriend. You are NOT a husband; not yet.
If you truly want to call everything off and leave her, then do so! What's stopping you? But that would be a pretty lousy thing to do - kind of like hitting someone when they're down. Oh yeah, there's real love, devotion and loyalty for you! NOT. Are you a "fair weather boyfriend?" In other words, are you only around when it's fun times and laughter, then split when the going gets tough?! True love is there for someone during the bad times as well as the good. That's also simple, good old-fashioned loyalty!
You need to cool off and do some thinking. If she is truly immature, then don't get married to her! Give her some time to grow up. But be realistic as well. If she is 35 and is still immature, you might want to end the relationship after awhile. Some people never grow up. And marriage is too serious a business to be in with the wrong partner.
2007-12-10 14:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you could talk to her alone
2007-12-10 14:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by tc22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋