My girlfriends Mom verbally abuses her all the time :( Her dad died a bit ago so if she tells anyone then they wont have anyone to give her to so shell get taken away! I want her to tell someone but i dont want her taken from me :( what should i do!
2007-12-10 13:56:33 · 4 answers · asked by sams_email_adress 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like her mom is still grieving the loss of her husband, and suffering from anxiety and depression. She needs to tell her mom how this is affecting her, and if she can't talk to her mom, she might talk to a doctor or a counselor at school.
You will see it differently, because you care for her and both of you are too young to understand how a person grieves. Children also grieve, either getting depressed, yelling at the parents or friends, and other ways. Similar to parents, but parents are more understanding than than children are of their parents.
You are on the outside looking in and wanting your friend to not suffer. But is she really telling it like it really is, or is it being magnified. Verbal abuse is horrible, and no one should have to go through it. Words do hurt! But this is up to your friend to handle, not you, since you no more power than she does.
It is so good that you care for her and you must let her talk to someone, to show that you like her enough to let her be in a safe place, regardless of how it affects you.
Good luck
2007-12-10 14:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever her mother says something about your gf, put your arms around her and hug her and tell her how special she is. It's the mother that has the problem. Unfortunately, what you consider verbal abuse, might not be enough for child protective services, or anyone else. Your gf just needs to know she has friends that she can go to and who will listen to her without judgment. Good for you for being there for her, she'll continue needing your support and other's supports. If she feels really bad about it, have her talk to a school counselor, or an adult she knows she can trust. Talking about how we feel makes us feel better, rather than keeping our feelings inside.
2007-12-11 07:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by 520doglover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably won't remove her from the home for verbal abuse but mom can get some help. it's a tough situation. foster care isn't very good either. have her stay at your house as much as possible. but don't make it selfish like you will lose a friend. you have to do what's best for your friend's life regardless of how it impacts you first think about telling your parents - maybe with your friend there and see what they think.
2007-12-10 14:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you being selfish, just thinking of yourself here?
It's important she gets the help she needs, verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. She should see a counselor or teacher at school and talk about it.
They won't take her away, but they will suggest her mother get's counseling, which she does need.
2007-12-10 14:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋