Myboyfreind has been to jail on numerous occasions. and this is cos of his stupid "Boys". I tell him that they bring him down, i have locked him down since he has met me he has not been in trouble and has changed his life for the better, so why does he still want contact with these supposed friends of his. Me and his mother and trying to stop him seeing them but he won't? What do i do???
2007-12-10 13:55:17 · 8 answers · asked by Christina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is 27!! I reallly think its time he settled down. He was into meth and stuff before he met me now he has completely changed. But his mates always pressure him etc
2007-12-10 14:12:41 · update #1
I think he needs to make a choice, either you (the one that can give him a purpose in life) or he chooses the no hopers that will see him with a life without purpose and full of trouble and no hope what so ever. My husband was in the same boat, he chose me, we have a wonderful life and four beautiful children, never been in trouble since.
2007-12-10 14:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think his friends are dragging him down. Even if they are a bad influece on him. He is responsible for his own behavior. You may have an influence on him, but don't push it too much. This gets into control issues and power struggles(even if it you think it's better for him).
You ever hear the expression, You can lead a horse to the watering hole but you can't make him drink? The same thing here. He will have to learn what is good for him in his own way. You can't make it happen.
You do have an influence on him though. Let him know that you are concerned about his friends. He has to wanna see it. Remember this: If he doesn't wanna......he not gonna! Its up to you to get him to wanna change his mind about his friends.
2007-12-10 14:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hon its'ten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, at 27, he is a lost cause if he does not want to change and you are just setting yourself up for a lot of future grief.
The problem isthat his life long association with these people coupled with the drug episodes is highly addictive and it is exceedingly unlikely tht he can do without them.
Does he have any opportunity to make new friends to replace these friends?
Alternatively, is it feasible to move elsewhere, where these friends will not follow and he canstart anew life?
If not, I would strongly suggest moving on as youare not going to change him.
2007-12-10 14:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Terryc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This chick is a f*ckin b*tch!! She has some severe themes!! in case you like revenge i think of it can be a sturdy thought in case you may desire to get a guy to play alongside with you and sleep along with her then tell her afterwards that he has herpes or warts! some sorta STD and then unfold it around so all and sundry will think of that she has one!! She'll think of she would be able to too and he or she'll could pass get examined and each thing!! Who is conscious? She only could have one anyhow! they're everywhere in recent times! or you may desire to pay some butch chick to easily beat the f*ck out of her for being a wh*re!
2016-12-10 19:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by cornelius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is this guy? Sounds like you need to leave him be. You are not his mother and if he wants to hang out with his friends then let him. It's not your job to make sure he doesn't get into trouble thats too much pressure for you. He is going to see these friends if he wants and there is nothing you can do to stop it, and, if you don't like it, find someone that you don't have to babysit.
2007-12-10 14:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by hayleey30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. Maybe he's a bit stupid, but never ever come between your BF and his mates! He'll learn when he's ready. In the meantime, listen to your own advice, and stop hanging around people that bring you down.
2007-12-10 14:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a smart and sweet girl, and probably to good for this guy. I'm not trying to offend, but have you ever consider that he might be bringing you down?
2007-12-10 14:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are at his level. it's not his friends bringing him down. it's him. he wants to be with the friends becasue he's like them. he's like that. they don't bring him down. he is equal to them probably. it's him that has to change. then he will naturally have better friends.
2007-12-10 13:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋