what would you do if your 8 year old son did is suspected of .....?

Question

ok we have been finding unexplainable wet marks going down our couch, then down the recliner, now tonight finding it on all the kids beds and floors. i think my 8 year old son is urinating or something all over , he is the one who keeps finding all the wet spots. we have been having problems with him lying about EVERY thing as well. i plan on having him see a doctor but until i can get him in what should i do? going out of my mind and getting pissed off!!!!!!!!

yes i said it. im pissed off. its nasty and disrespectful. its not during the night its during the day! whatever is happening is happening on purpose! i like the camcorder idea lol.

what do u mean teach him? u idiot. hes 8! and been potty trained for many years. ummm this is not my fault. this site makes me sick sometimes with the rude comments when this site is designed for people to ask questions and get input from others.

Answer 1

Be patient... I know it's hard and frustrating. If you show that he has gotten to you then he is winning. Make him clean up the messes. I started a chore chart with my daughter that seems to work for different issues. She has her basic chores that are non-negotiable but then for extra money she can do these random chores... clean mirrors, fold sheets, clean bathroom, fold my clothes, fold her brother's clothes, help mom, etc... things that are a little more work for her but not out of her league. there is a price for each one (.10, .25 etc..) when I have to do a chore that is a non-negotiable becasue she forgot, she pays me .10 I get paid when she whines, talks back, acts out, etc. it's great. she and some friends started spitting... I now make .25 every time she spits. One week she owed me 3.00 before she even made a dime. after that week the spitting stopped.

Answer 2

Maybe you should have a real heart to heart with him. Don't get mad, just sit him down and talk to him firmly face to face. Tell him that lying isn't a good habit to have, and neither is peeing on anything. Maybe set up some sort of award system. Every day that he doesn't go on any of the furniture (make sure you all keep a good eye out) then put a golden star, and after he gets 10 or something give him some type of reward. After awhile he'll learn that going in the bathroom is a good thing. Even so he's 8 years old, he should know better by now.

Perhaps he's feeling ignored or something as well, you'll never truely know until you can have a real heart to heart without him lying and everything.

Answer 3

I agree with you about seeing a doctor. Have you tho't about therapy for the lying? What does he fear? what is he trying to hide? this is why he lies.
What about making him wear a pullup at home, if this is the only place he's doing this, until he chooses to stop.
Have you had any changes in life at home? Divorce, a move, change in schedule? new daycare? A new sibling? Is he having trouble at school too, with anything?
A potty trained child exhibiting this behavior might have other issues. I would suggest therapy if you don't find a physical problem. He's trying to tell you something. Does he only wet things when he's awake? Does he think he's a dog? Did an older sibling dare him to do this? Does he want attention?
I sympathize. I really do. I'm asking questions to try to help you in the meantime while you research this. I'm not criticizing you or your lifestyle, homelife or parenting. It's just some things to think about.

Answer 4

Yes it's extremely frustrating and it sounds like there may be a power struggle going on. (Assuming you've gotten the video evidence).
Let's face it...kids have all the time in the world to push buttons. The number one most important thing right now, however, is to get him to a doctor and rule out ALL physical causes. Granted he was already trained but things can change (abnormal growths, infections etc). Once all physical explanations are resolved, take a look at recent changes in the environment (moving, school, siblings, divorce etc etc).
A response already given by others is his need for attention or anger...especially if he knows he can piss you off. The behavior appears somewhat passive / aggresive so you might need to address his ability to express his emotions appropriately.
In the mean time, do not play into his "button pushing"...if he knows he can piss you off, he will..regardless of the consequences. Of course its easier said than done, but you are the responsible adult in the relationship. Since it sounds like you're sure its him, address the issue calmly with love, care, and concern.
"Johnny, the video shows you peeing on the floor and furniture. That makes things very smelling and unpleasant. It's making a big mess and it's not fair to the rest of the family. We need for you to wear these pull ups (or diapers) until you and I figure out how to solve this. I love you and I know we can be partners to figure out how to make things better. " Be clear on your motivations and prepared to make the change immediately...without anger or hostility. The key issue is to find out his motivation and what he's getting out of the behavior.

Answer 5

if your boys are harmless of any crime then they could seem in courtroom and be heard. As for letting the father and mom and teenagers be certain this, it relatively is a thoroughly absurd thought as all of us understand that that could merely end with the father and mom up in courtroom for attack or worse as father and mom in those situations can't administration their tempers and oftentimes can't think of rationally whilst discussing their invaluable offspring. The State Trooper probable grow to be drained and not superb thrilled that he had to spend his time thinking a baby, his technique can be greater suited for thinking an grownup additionally. The Trooper's behaviour which you experience grow to be "impolite" would have been greater to do inclusive of your reaction to him coming on your place unannounced and thinking your infants. A crux on your long question seems to be that there isn't any point out of any arrest or cost. if your son is a suspect and not something has been finished different than call him as a witness then you definitely desire not hardship as they can't turn a tribulation of somebody else in to a tribulation of your son. A lesson i might learn from all of this if I have been you is which you do not enable your 8 twelve months outdated nor your 11 twelve months outdated out of the residing house unsupervised as your neighbourhood seems one in all those place the place the tittle tattle of teenagers can rather amplify to violence. i might desist in "speaking" with the human beings in touch in the case approximately something to do with it and tell your infants to maintain their heads down.

Answer 6

don't be upset with him, my cousin had the same problem when she was about his age and her parents got so angry with her, she got spankings after spankings and 5 loooong years later (she was 13 and still doing it) they took her to a doctor and she had an under developed bladder and a disfunctioning kidney. they barely caught it in time to permanently fix, but she too lied to her parents about it because she was ashamed.

BUT... it could be just him being spiteful, but you should rule out medical problems first.

Good luck! I know it can be frustrating, but bare with him until after you see the doctor.

Answer 7

Maybe hes doing it for some kind of attention every time he does it he brings it to your attention right. maybe try keeping an eye on him more or just give him a little more attention than you usually do see if that works.

Answer 8

Pun not intended?? lol

Make that appointment high on your priority list, your son may be "asking for help". Meanwhiule, try to become calm and make sure in a friendly way that he is sharing the cleanup with you. Best of luck.

Answer 9

No shrink here, but your son is screaming for attention for one reason or another, and the attention he is getting (works, doesn't it?) is not the type he wants. There are also darker implications here, so get him to a doctor immediatle. Goldwing

Answer 10

Talk to him! Don't start yelling at him the first thing, talk to him. if he keeps on doin it warn him, if he jus dun listen then ground him or something. every kid needs a chance