I hooked up with this guy but I felt like we had an actual connection beyond just the physical. I really, really want to convey to him somehow that I want to see if it could work out, but I don't know if it's a good idea -- if I should wait a while before suggesting it or what. Also, how does one get that idea across? I want to hear from guys -- how would you like to be approached if a girl had a huge crush on you? I don't want to be creepy.
2007-12-10 13:26:37 · 3 answers · asked by Anamarie V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you can. I met this guy and we had sex rather quick. Afterwards I was real embarrased because i was afraid he would look at me differently. I didnt want him to look at me differently because I had interest in him. But despite how embarrassed i really felt inside, I continued to act as if everything was okay.Well too make a long story short we ended being in a relationship together after two months and he adored me!.
This is what I recommend you to do: Dont bring up that you want more than a physical connection until the right time. You should continue just to have fun with him and build a good reltionship with him. TRY TO SEE IF HE BRINGS It UP. He might feel the same way you do but he may not know how to bring it up.My guy is the one who initiated a relationship with me.And after we became a couple, he became so sprung off me, he ended up loving me.After a period time of seeing him, if he hasnt brought it up, then you can. But whatever you do DONT pressure him. That will make him want nothing to do with you.Dont get mad or take it personal if he is not ready to take things to a different level,because then again you might run him off.
When the time is right, tell him like this: You know I been thinking, we have such a great connection and I wonder what if it could be something more? Something serious?What do you think?
See where his mind is at.
Let him know that whatever decision he makes your cool with(and be cool with it!!).
He might get a little shocked at first and turn you down but that may be only because hes nervous. He might come to you later and tell you he changed his mind and does want to be with you. Give it a littlle time. Continue to act as usual. The worst thing you could do is make things weird for eachother so act normal even if you feel awkward!!And continue to have a good time with him. Laugh and share experiences and hug and kiss and just continue to be happy in eachothers presense.
If time goes by and you notice that things arent going anywhere with you two then forget about it. Continue to enjoy the sex and as soon as you find another guy and get serious with, then drop him.If you find another guy,dont do the same thing you did with this guy. Get to know him first-then sex. Take it SLOW.
Everything will be okay
Hope I helped!
2007-12-10 21:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just come out and be like. I think we have a connection and I was wondering if you'd want to turn this into more than a hookup. Make sure he knows either way you're good, but that you're open for more.
2007-12-10 21:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wondering Wildly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Look at me. She is my wife now.Trust me in this one./
2007-12-10 21:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋