If I am falling for a boy but he is ssssssssoooooooooooo over protective and wwe arn't even dating... should I keep pushing my luck or should I push him away???!!!???
Because I want it to work and I know he does to because he told me today at our schools basketball game, but he said he doesn't like me flirting with those guys yet he thinks that it is alright for him to wisper and flirt with other girls in my face!!! He likes me and I like him but we both like to flirt a lot. Should we just be friends and play with each other every now and agian or should we just let it blow over??!!!??? Help me people!!!
2007-12-10 13:08:44 · 15 answers · asked by Lee-Lee F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you two like each other, then there's no reason to not give it a shot and actually become a couple. However, it sounds like you guys are already starting with a serious problem which needs to be discussed before you two could even consider having a relationship.
You both like to flirt but it seems like he has a problem trusting you. You really need to make sure that he trusts you and understands that because you talk to other guys doesn't mean anything. If he can't trust you and understand that, then he isn't for you. On the other hand, you have to take his feelings into consideration and maybe cut down on the flirting just like he should.
But definitely talk it over with him. It could just be that regardless of how much you like each other, you two just aren't meant for dating. So keep that in mind.
Good luck :)
2007-12-10 13:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Roses ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm little dilemma!! well if it were me i would take a step back and think, well i am still in school i have the rest of my life ahead of me! you can start a relationship that means NO more flirting with other guys or girls for him!! you can tell him you want to give it a go or tell him i think its best we just stay friends that can have a good time together every now and then. there are going to be plenty of fish in the sea before you marry and settle down if you like to flirt and him to, flirt with each other if you want it to work really bad.
Good Luck!!
2007-12-10 21:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by ella bieracki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try dating... u don't have to jump into a relationship. After a while if u think he is too clingy then get rid of him. If you decide you want to be in a realtionship with him then make sure u reasure him you like him but tell him things need to be even.. if your not flirting with anyone else he shouldnt either. Maybe he was cheated on before and is insecure. Or he could just want the power. If it feels like he just wants power over you, then it's not a good idea to get into a realtionship w him.
hope i helped! good luck!
2007-12-10 21:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by smf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both like each other, then have this conversation with him. Tell him that you would like things to move forward and work out between you two, but this is what you're afraid of. If you come to a mutual understanding about how you interact with others before you start dating, you've set up grounds for a stable relationship where can feel comfortable talking to each other about your problems and insecurities.
2007-12-10 21:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by mint latte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about it. Tell him nicely though. You don't want to be mean. If you guys want to go out then you should, but if he keeps flirting with other girls, then you should talk to him about it and if doesn't work then break up. He might just be trying to protect you from other guys but thinks he can handle himself, so if you two were to go out, he might stop because then he would belong to someone and it wouldn't be right to flirt with other girls.
~Kita-chan~
2007-12-10 21:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kita-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see...if u get into something with him, n he keeps flirting around...99/100 chances are tht ull end up gettin real jealous n things will break badly....so i guess keep him as a friend if u like him a lot and find someone else for a romantic relationship...
2007-12-11 05:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sneha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this one. Not good when he thinks double standards are ok. Just be friends. Also don't confuse "overprotectiveness" with being controlling and manipulative. Those are dangerous males that exhibit that behavior.
2007-12-10 21:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys should just be friend because i just got out a huge relationship like that and we both cheated on each other its just better to be friends because he probly will cheat to with more then one girl this probly maybe will help
2007-12-10 21:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF YOU BOTH WANT IT TO WORK OUT,THEN YOU SHOULD KEEP TRYING.KEEP FLIRTING IF IT MAKES HIM JEALOUS!MAYBE HE WILL STOP TO MAKE YOU STOP.GUYS ARE WEIRD SOMETIMES,JUST FLIRT WITH HIM MORE THAN U DO WITH THE OTHERS...
2007-12-10 21:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by skittles689 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should let him know the deal. Go with your first mind. Let him go if he is not going to treat you with respect like you do him. Yall need to quit playing and make it happen.
2007-12-10 21:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by fresh one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋