Well, there is 11 year gap between me and my gf (I'm 23 and she is 34). She says she loves me and we have been together for 6 months. We are always pretty honest with each other and she said that she doesnt see herself sticking to this relationship because of the age difference. Shes just not comfortable with it but doesnt want to loose me anyway because she tried so hard not to fall for me but couldnt help it. It also was a problem when we first got together. Took me over two months to get with her initially because of the age difference issue. And now breaking up with me would break her heart as much as mine but, would probably still happen. What should I do? I said I will stay and make her love me so much she wont be able to leave (thats what she initially fell for, my ambition and determination). But, I am wondering if I should just leave and make the ineviable heart break a bit easier.
P.S I have no trouble with the relationship evolving into things much more than what they are
2007-12-10 12:06:37 · 16 answers · asked by Gord 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love has never been easy /painless it 's what makes us as humans bloom,. it's fire and water all into one feeling.it makes us grow . it's painfull but you take it cause of this makes you grow and with the age difference she has grown a little and has more experience with this ...and being on that note take it and go learn from experience otherwise ,if you know her to be the one true love ..don't give up my husband chased me till i quit running he asked me 5 times to marry him and when i said yes,i didn't see the future but it for last 15 years has been very satisfying. we honestly can't help you or tell you what to do it's how do you feel about her ....honestly?true love or just another experience ?let her go or keep after her? i wish you the best and i know that you will have a great holiday and follow your heart i hope you the best my friend
2007-12-10 13:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by b.johne k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is 9 years older than me, and we've been going along now for close on a couple of decades :) Maybe over time she will feel more comfortable with the age difference, or maybe she just feels at a different stage in her life - like wanting to get married, have babies etc and is worried that you're not ready for that yet.
I think it would be sad if you left, because you love her. Stick it out, it's only been 6 months.
2007-12-10 12:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kathkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this, and you have my hopes that things will turn your way
But the fact that she is thinking this, will always be on her mind, no matter if you guys stay together or decide not to.
But from what I read and gather, you're saying she will break up with you, don't be the overbearing boyfriend who makes this worse. This effects both parties you and her. You should take things slow, and let her do what she feels comfortable with... A girls heart is very fickle no matter how old.
Be the good boyfriend, be the one she will always have good memories off, be the bar/standard that other people have to meet.
best wishes
2007-12-10 12:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try with all your might to keep her if you truely love her! Sure it's a big gap but I've seen people that are like, 15 or 20 years difference that are still together! If you two truely love each other you'll stick together! Hope that helps and that things work out! =)
2007-12-10 12:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by lilstar27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, since you two are older the age difference isn't that big. i mean if you were like 18 and she was 29, that might be strange, but at your age its fine. ask her if you were her age would she break up with you and why. if she lists what she loves about you, then ask her how any of that revolves around age. if you two are at the same level of maturity, and can relate to different things, than just show her how much you care and how age shouldn't effect you two, by the way. . .age is just a number =]
good luck
2007-12-10 12:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Some Person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs some time without you to find out what she really wants. If this relationship is meant to be then it will work out. I can't help but think she was hurt in a previous relationship and is scared of being hurt again?.
Give her some space and if she wants to end the relationship at least try to remain friends.
2007-12-10 12:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, all i have to say is be happy you have each other and forget about the age thing. Being happy with another human is so rare that age should not matter. Dont destroy a great thing because of society. Relax and enjoy , let the future take care of itself.
2007-12-10 12:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show maturity,show her that you do have or can have in a short time things that older guys have,work a bit your image and use examples of couples with age difference like demi moore and ashton cutcher for example.After all it's trendy for women to date younger guys.don't let her go if you love her...
2007-12-10 12:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate break-ups.....don't do that. You should work it out with her.....who cares about age.....my boyfriend is 6 years younger than me...and we don't give a flying fck of what people think......we matter...not them.
If you love somebody, don't mess it up !especially when you are both ADULTS !!
2007-12-10 12:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bibi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might not have problem because you dont see the problem , but i guess she sees those problems cmng. So its better if u guys sit and talk about the things bothering each other.. if tht wont resolve the matter.. then guess she is rite in doing wht she is doing....
2007-12-10 12:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by Raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋