My boyfriend and I are finally going to have sex, and I was wondering how bad it hurts the first time. I'm pretty sure my hymen is broken, does that mean it will hurt less? I'm so scared, and I have no idea why. I really want to do this, and I'm ready emotionally, I'm just scared that it will hurt. Any suggestions or anything? How bad did it hurt you?
2007-12-10 11:59:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't hurt NEARLY as bad as all your friends say it does, especially if you are in love and he will go slowly and pay attention to your needs. Kudos for waiting until you were ready! That is SO important. I can compare the feeling to the feeling of a loose tooth... and the pain is minimal. Just make sure you are lubricated and not dry before you actually start... or it might hurt more. I hope you are old enough for the responsibilities that come along wtih sex and everything, but I won't rant and rave about that.
2007-12-10 14:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by *the dancing machine* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not as bad as you may think. If your hymen is already broken, then it may not hurt at all. Just use protection and make sure his condom doesn't slip. Like the woman above said, giving childbirth hurts alot worse than having sex the first time.
2007-12-10 12:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person, also the more physically active(sports, etc.) you are can help (so i've heard). Bottom line is it hurts. I could barely walk the next day. Have him go slow and easy....he may get excited and try to "go at it" but talk him through it and if it is hurting you communicate that. Also, in the future when it feels good, let him know that too. If you think you are ready...do it...its worth it. However, make sure you are ready, and use a condom.
2007-12-10 12:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by dhallkb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know you're at risk of getting pregnant if the two of you dont use protection and since your first time and the two of you do use protection then guess what its really gonna hurt with that rubber on. but tell him to lubricate first and ease himself in you'll like though the first time is always the best time you will be just fine once hes in you not gone know it cause its going to feel so good but make sure you strap up
2007-12-10 12:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by purplewoman 86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hymen is already broken, it will likely be only mildly uncomfortable. Take it slow and use lots of lubricant. Your worst enemy here is your fear, which will make you tense up and make it more painful. Try to relax and remember, billions of girls do this every day.
2007-12-10 12:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't hurt so bad. Don't be so afraid of it. At first you may feel pressure and it may sting a little, but once he is in and you two get going, there will be little or no pain at all... Just pleasure : )
2007-12-10 12:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Intrigued 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts but not that bad .. I remember my first time .. i remember it like it was yesterday .. I was so scared and nervous and i was soo embarrassed cause my legs were halla shaking seriously i couldn't stop them from shaking..It was funny cause like it was hurting me we were taking nice and slow and by the time he went all the way in he was done .. and I was like WHAT that was it.. that's what sex is like .. and he was laughing saying I'm sorry I no that wasn't what you expected
2007-12-10 12:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by paulas14real 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont condone young sex but I will tell you that if you are REALLY ready and you REALLY love each other...you wont even notice any pain at all. Please use protection because first time sex isnt as painful as giving birth.
2007-12-10 12:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about the dark side. Think about the pleasure and joy of having sex.
2007-12-10 12:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh it didn't hurt me at all. I loved it actually because I was in love with him but we ain't together anymore. But anyways, it don't hurt. Well at least not me. Good luck and be safe.
2007-12-10 12:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by criswellmary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋