2007-12-10 11:56:40 · 15 answers · asked by Sweet Judy 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH THEIR DISPUTES,EVER!
2007-12-11 01:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by stormy 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Do not be disappointed if your relationship with your new in-law is not what you expected in the beginning.
I think Norskeye just wrote my story. I feel awful for the person she is wrighting about as I know the feeling first hand. Don't try to hard. Be patient and hopefully the relationship will evolve naturally.
Never, never give up. I was distraught for 7 years. My whole family did a lot a praying, especially my Mom, about the situation. Just as of this year have things begun to turn around and I am very, very thankful!
2007-12-11 10:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be a Mother-in-Law is not easy, especially if you have to cater to a daughter-in-Law. Your son needs to let his wife know that in no way will he tolerate his wife , abusing his Mother. You will be very Lucky if you get a good in-Law. Mind your own business and don't pry into their private life. Only give a little advice , when asked. Don't be judgmental, and always be kind. Don't gossip about your in-Law and try to hold the family together with Respect and Love. With hopes you will have the wisdom to know when to help and when not. Don't let your in-Law take severe advantage of you. Be a good Mother-in-Law, because if you get on the wrong side of your new in-Law, your son will live in hell. I know of one Mother-in-Law that worked hard and helped her un-grateful daughter -in - Law only to be called nasty dis-respectful names, She abused her son, by calling him a Mommies ***** or a Mommies boy. She is jealous of all the other family members and is so angry at her Mother-in-Law. The Mother-in-Law is kind and generous and helps all she can with the children, only to be mistreated. Being a Mother-in-Law is not easy. No matter what you do, you will walk on thin ice. To have a good in-Law is a special blessing. If you end up with a negative thinking in-Law, you and your son will live in hell. Pray all the time. Ask God to bring Peace, and Happiness to your new family member.
2007-12-10 20:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is so important to have patience. You also need to know in the beginning that a mother-in-law has a bad rap to begin with so you have to overcome bad press right off. Always mind your own business even if you see plenty you don't like. You have finished your job in raising your child and hopefully they are now responsible, thoughtful and caring individuals ready to start their new life. If it is not great you have taught your child to handle adversity. If everything is wonderful they will also do well with that. No matter what, you can say great job mom.
2007-12-10 23:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by haney17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to emphasize the faults of your new member. It's difficult but take your time in assessing your new family member. In time, you will get to know each other better. You will find out what the boundaries are. I try to avoid anything that could possible be confrontational. My son-in-law is only 20, and has a lot of growing up to do. I have had my skirmishes with him, and I know what to avoid to keep the peace.
2007-12-10 23:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Paulus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful that you want to be a good Mother in Law- my definition of a good Mom in law- is that you respect your son/daughter in law- It took over 20 years for my mother in law to think I might be ok for her son. Never put your son/daughter in law down- if you disagree that is ok- and you can talk about it, my husband and my mom disagree, but they respect those disagreements. I pray that your new son/daughter in law loves and respects you too.
2007-12-10 20:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you WANT to be a good Mother in Law puts you halfway up the ladder to sucess.
Do be welcoming. Don't allow yourself to be in competition for your son or daughter---all three of you will lose. Do be helpful when asked for help. Don't constantly offer advice when unasked---it puts pressure on your son/daughter-in-law to choose that course or risk disappointment.
2007-12-10 20:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mark M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Treat your daughter in law with love and respect. Do not interfear or give an opion unless asked.
2007-12-11 09:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be respectful always. remember that your child loves this person, and he/she is a part of the family.. although i have no doubt that you will be a wonderful mother in law.
2007-12-11 00:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gecko Missed all his friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't pry! and be supportive, without interfering in the marriage. when your son or daughter calls with a marital problem, of course you should listen...but never pass judgment on either spouse. pray for the couple and let them know that God will work it out. this is the common practice of my grandmother, and i must admit, she has successfully passed it on to all of her children and grandchildren. when my sister calls my mother to vent about her husband, my mother always listens to the entire story and then says, 'well, just pray about it...everything will work out." lol. mind you...my mother use to HATE IT when my grandmother did this to her. My parents have been married for 36 years :)
2007-12-10 20:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by sexy law chick 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just a fun fact, if you rearrange the letters in mother-in-law, you get "Woman Hitler"
2007-12-10 20:07:37 · answer #11 · answered by ishtar_hecate 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋