my best friend is a guy, and i have kinda liked him for quiet some time. the only problem is, he has the same name as my ex who i broke up with a month ago. i really loved my ex, and they have the same name. Derek. i call my best friend dj cause it was to awkward. now, im afraid to tell him because it will still be so awkward. i really like him though. i know he likes me too, but he's going to colege next year. im two years younger than him. how do i tell him this? should i just keep my mouth shut?
2007-12-10 11:55:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DONT KEEP YOURE MOUTH SHUT OR YOU WILL REGRET IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
trust me, i know.
2007-12-10 11:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would rather have the girl ask him out (in my experience). Maybe he thinks he is being set up, if you really like him ask him to hang out, if he really doesn't want to be in a relationship you guys could just go grab some lunch sometime just as friends, no body is to busy to go have lunch with a friend. As far as your guy friends go, maybe they are jealous and are trying to sabotage you, tell them to back off if you don't like them doing that. Good luck to ya! ;)
2016-05-22 22:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him (in written form would be much easier). Make sure there are no understandings and hopefully if it doesn't work out you guys are close enough to laugh it off. I have crushed on all of my best guy friends and it just made us closer once we realized it wouldn't work out. I'm still friends with all of them. Also, he's leaving, so there is much less risk if it doesn't work! The same name as cute -- at least you won't accidentally call him the wrong thing (I called my ex by my other ex's name once... bad!)
2007-12-10 11:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anamarie V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know about the whole same name thing. That's kinda weird, but it shouldn't affect your feelings or anything like that. I say tell him how you feel.
I was in the same situation as you. I loved my best guy friend for like 2 years. Then one night I got really drunk, and we got in a huge fight about who knows what, and I just said it, "I am so in love with you that it's ridiculous!" Long story short, he said I had his mind spinning for a few days, but here we are 2 years later and we're still together.
Go for it! You might regret telling him for a while, but if you don't tell him, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Don't live with what if's.
2007-12-10 12:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jancy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view you need to weigh what you want more some time with him now and probably none later vs. staying friends and having a friend phone relationship. In my experiance the long distance thing rarely works out. My thoughts, "a bird in the hand.." and all that. Good luck.
2007-12-10 12:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by chris74z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it ,but make sure that even if this doesn't go well promise this will not ruin ur current relationship. Anyway what do u have to lose? he wont hurt u.i had the same problem but never got the chance to tell him since i transferred but then he transferred but i figured out that was a lie so no chance but u do now so take it! just admit it alone to him nice and easy like "i've been crushing on you for a while and i think that i would like to be more than this_____" after that it will take its own coarse. take a deep breath, realese, good luck go out and say it like u feel it!
tell me how it goes hopefully ill have my chance again one day
2007-12-10 12:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by ZERO admirer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really loved you ex - i wouldnt say anything at all not because of the name thing - but 1 month isnt enough time to get over a true love - you may be kind of lenaing twoards him for a choice of a man because you two are such good friends - a million people will tell you to tell him, maybe you should - but if you claim you truely loved this other man - why are you in such a rush to get into another relationship ?
2007-12-10 11:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by imissmahboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just been through that exact same situation. I am a junior and my best friend just went to college uh... my advice dont do it. I dated my best friend and it was great until we broke up and it killed our relationship. As for the name issue, I had that too but it was my brother and best friend. so I understand but I have never been so hurt in my life because i lost my boyfriend and my best friend when we broke up. is it worth it to you?
2007-12-10 12:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont keep your mouth shut.
it will def just hurt you more.
im still in love with my ex.
and i told him how i felt.
and now i feel alot better.
cause its off of your chest and its out there for him to choose.
just because hes going 2 college doesnt mean you cant keep contact with him.
dont worry.
just tell him how you feel.
as hard as it may sound
believe me.and trust me.
it will make you feel better.
2007-12-10 11:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have another of your friends tell him.. and then have the friend that tells him tell you what he said .. so if he likes you say you kinda like him back and go from there... if the friend finds out he odns't like you for more than a friend just say "what" i dont' know what your talking about and make the friend looks stupid
2007-12-10 11:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sure this is a good idea ? doesn't sound like one to me . especially if they have the same name and age i'm assuming .
and he's leaving for college anyways , i wouldn't bother making things any more complicated then they allready sound. just keep being friends for time being. no need for anything more .
2007-12-10 12:07:42 · answer #11 · answered by R.S. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋