Ok i made a big mistake!! I checked my boyfriends cell phone bill (which I pay for) and callled a number that I thought was suspicious. It turned out to be inoccent but obviously caused problems. I betrayed him and he knows im not trusting him completely but i am insecure a little which he knows too. He told me that nothing has changed and to let this go but I really feel as though hes pulling away and being distant. I love him very much and I dont want to loose him.How do I make this right?
2007-12-10 11:32:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you everyone
2007-12-10 11:42:19 · update #1
I think if you two were open and honest with each other the whole time you would never have gotten in this situation in the first place.
The only thing you can do now is try and prove to him that you have complete trust in him and still love him. If he is being distant, talk to him about it and work it out.
2007-12-10 11:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable why you called that number, all girls get insecure at times, but instead of jumping to conclusions that he was cheating on you, you should have asked him to begin with whose number it was. If you two love each other as you say you do, he would have told you the truth.
As far as fixing things, i'd say the best thing to do is to just tell him that the only reason why you did that was because you love him so much, and that you were sorry and next time you'd talk to him instead of jumping to conclusions. I'm sure you'll both feel a lot better
Good luck! =]
2007-12-10 11:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold the phone here! YOU pay his bill? What the heck are you thinking girl? And if you are paying it, and you are suspicious, you have a right to check it. Anytime your gut tells you something might be wrong, don't deny it. If he's pulling away, then let him, obviously this relationship wasn't meant to be. Next time, don't pay any guys bills!
2007-12-10 11:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have doubts...but what has he done to make you feel this way? If you are not ready to trust, then maybe you need some time to work on yourself...which is okay. The better you know yourself the better you will be in a relationship. Just lay it all out to him. If it doesn't feel right, then maybe move on, don't stay because you feel bad about what you did..good luck..remember everything heals with time
2007-12-10 11:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by lavendercat84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do a big gesture of some kind to apologize. I would then think about what makes you insecure and talk to him about it. A person is bound to be more understanding and forgiving in any situation if they understand the motive behind it. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 11:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why, do you pay for his phone bills? That sentence alone makes me think that he is taking you for a ride, and you will be the one hurt. He already knows your insecure, your just adding ammo. Maybe im being a bit OTT but meh i bet im right.
On the plus side, you pay the phone.... so technically it is yours, your well within your rights to read it.
2007-12-10 11:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by stephen_blackler19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you pay for your boyfriends cell phone bill.
That baffles me. You pay the bills, so YOU have the right to know who he calls.
That'd be my story.
Get a boyfriend with his own money supply, who can pay his own bills.
2007-12-10 11:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Skyleigh's Mom :)™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl first of all why are you paying his cell phone bill???? I think if your doing that then you have a right to look at the bill... Dunno why some girls do this- he must be good in bed or something??? Couldn't fa-them paying a man's cell bill. Your obviously insecure about something.
2007-12-10 11:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one. well I think that you should just wait it out and see how it goes dont be super clingy and if he starts the let go anymore then it means that he doesent feel the same way and that it is time for you to find a better guy who loves you back and who is just as obsessed with you as you are with him. good luck!
2007-12-10 11:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jenica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done the same thing, but caught him, and I would not pay his bill, he is using you!! Trust your gut, it's usually right. But the damage is done, unless you've caught him, then try to trust him, and move on, hopefully the relationship will make it.
2007-12-10 11:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋