My friend and I are about the same when were out having fun but at school she is out going and i'm more shy. she has been asked out 3 times so is being shy a bad thing and a turnoff for guys???
2007-12-10 11:26:33 · 31 answers · asked by Ashes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it really depends on the guy. I don't think shy girls are a turnoff at all. The reason more guys are probably asking your more outgoing friend out though, is because it probably seems because of her extroverted outgoing nature that she is more likely to say yes.
Some guys might be intimidated by your shyness and interpret it that you don't like them. Personally, I like shy girls though, because they aren't usually the type who always want to be the center of attention. A lucky guy will find you. Just be yourself.
2007-12-10 11:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jasco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. It could also be that if you are shy, guys might think that you do not want to be bothered.
But there are many shy guys who like shy girls, which means that it's not a turnoff, it's just that they cannot bring themselves to talk to you because they are shy.
And lastly, it could just be that guys are not interested in you, because they do not know that much about you...reason being is because you are shy. But being shy is not a bad thing.
2007-12-10 11:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by niiro13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being shy is not a turn-off, necessarily. After a bit of conversation, one can deduce the reason for the shyness and some of those reasons can be a turn-off.
Shy because . . .
No self confidence? Turn-off
Too much self confidence? Turn-off
A little nervous? Not a turn-off
Freaking out because of nervousness? Turn-off
Too cynical to enjoy the activity? Turn-off
Shy to try something new? Not a turn-off
Not willing to try something new? Turn-off
Judging everyone? Turn-off
Shy because the activity goes against your morals or ethics? Not a turn-off
To get over shyness, try being someone else. Pretend you are an actress and your role is someone who is confident and yet considerate of others, someone who helps others overcome shyness and gets them involved. You will find that may help.
Or, pretend you are researching a book on someone and you have to get to know them to understand them, their likes and dislikes. Interview them, really be interested in them, and you will find that may help. Most of the time, people like people who are interested in them. People like to talk about themselves -- so be a good listener.
But do not surrender your morals, your ethics, your sense of who you are supposed to be, just for popularity. Unless of course you are a serial killer.
2007-12-10 11:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by zoldhuszar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all if being shy is who u r dnt change that 4 anyone.
if a guy see's u an something clicks then he will make a move.
dont change yourself to fit 2 a general mold of what u think guys like.
the right one 4 u will b the one 2 discover the real u shy or not.
just believe in your self and enjoy time with your friends,love will come along sooner than u think.
goodluck.
2007-12-10 11:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being shy just brings less attention to yourself.
For me, I am attracted to confidence. So I would not say shyness is a turnoff........but a shy person is a lot less likely to get my attention over a confident outgoing person.
2007-12-10 11:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so much a bad thing as more of a "I dont know her" sorta thing. Since you are shy most guys don't really know much about you so maybe if you talk to the guy you like and they get to know you or whatnot, they may ask you out.
2007-12-10 11:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sense 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be shy and be yourself, than pretend to be outgoing.
Shy girls are bound to be more of a challenge for a frightened but interested boy. Try to think how nervous they are asking out a bold girl, let alone one who is sending out such quiet signals. Bold girls are just easier to read, so get more invitations.
Try to spare a few more smiles for the guys you like and I'm sure you'll get more play.
2007-12-10 11:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some guys like the mystery behind shy girls. it makes the chase more exciting if you dont put it all out there at once.
but other guys like to know you from the beginning and decide then whether they want to ask you out or not, it just depends on the guy.
2007-12-10 11:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a turn off however a guy will probably not ask you out since he isn't sure you will go or if you like him... a lot of times guys want a sure thing
2007-12-10 11:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Pixel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda, but some guys like the mystery and want to unveil it by getting closer to you. But you should try to open up a little bit at least if you want guys to be more interested.
2007-12-10 11:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋