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Personally, I think that most children who are delinquents or troublemakers are that way because of bad parenting. I know there are some certain exceptions, though, such as in the case of mental illness. Can anyone shed some thoughts on this?
2007-12-10 11:20:31 · 12 answers · asked by banananutmeg1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yep, know several families that have had this situation and in no way were the parents at fault for the hellion they bore. The rest of their children were fine citizens.
Kids are born with personalities. Some simply don't want to follow the rules or want what they think is the 'easy way.' Still others are just plain antisocial and think nothing of hurting others.
Surprisingly, if they don't get addicted to drugs, many of these hellions actually do well in life, but are still nasty people with a mask on.
For the person above who claims that children are the product of their parents, how do you explain really great kids who come from terrible parents? You are living in a fantasy world, I think.
2007-12-10 11:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Figure this, I was raised, by a verbally, physically, sexually abusive alcoholic father, and a mother with Schizophrenia. At age 14 I was placed in foster homes and group homes, where I was always "the bad kid". I was diagnosed mentally disabled and put on SSI about 2 years ago. I am now off it, have had a job for the past year and 2 months, have a stable living environment, car, no drugs, etc. My brother and sister are both considered "addicts" at ages 18 and 22. (I'm 21) And they were in the same situation. Was it my choice to become a "normal" citizen...? My parents/ foster/ etc. sure didn't teach me! Children are taught at a young age what is right or wrong. Somewhere along the line, something happens that changes their point of view...that's when they became f***** up. It's really up to the child growing into an adult. Positive role models can only go so far. And if you are not speaking of your own child...be aware of what may go on behind closed doors.
2007-12-10 11:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by cv_2004x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband's grandparents are the greatest people I know. They have 4 kids - 2 of whom are wonderful, well-adjusted adults. The other two (the youngest ones, if that matters) are completely nuts. My husband's father is/was abusive, an alcoholic and drug user, and spent time in jail. In the last five years he was supposedly diagnosed as bi-polar. His sister is just plain crazy, and no longer speaks to their parents, and often goes out of her way to be just plain mean to them.
I know it's not their parenting because they raised 2 that turned out fine, and raised my husband just fine as well. I do think that parenting makes a difference, but I think that in some cases nature beats out nurture no matter what you do.
2007-12-10 13:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends. I was raised by my grandparents from birth to age 11 and at that time was forced to live with my mother. All hell broke loose after that and I was not a good kid. Couldn't blame my upbringing on that cuz my grandparents ran a very very good household, but I do think it had alot to do with the parenting I received from my mother from age 11 on.
Each person has a mind of their own and no matter How well you raised your kids, it's up to THEM to continue on that path. Some choose to, some choose not to.
2007-12-10 11:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by still_crazy_mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes great parents, no matter what they do, end up with a trouble making kid. But when the siblings turn out fine, that's a clue that the parents were good. Sometimes crappy parents have a great kid.
Usually when the parents set great examples and raise them with good discipline(even a spanking when needed) the kids turn out fine.
Usually when the parents are crappy, the kids turn out crappy.
Kids learn through example. That's what it is.
2007-12-10 11:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the parents of the Menendez brothers.
Oh wait. You can't They're dead, with Mommy Menendez getting blasted 9 times with a shotgun.
Maybe you can get Berkowitz's old man on the phone.
2007-12-10 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are always the products of the parents. Everyone has their own issues and personality, but a sense of good and evil is implanted by parenting- and the skills to make the right choices is also learned from parents.
All behavior is and should be learned and governed by parents.
I really dont think any child will turn out bad is raised properly- illness or not.
2007-12-10 11:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You don't get a second chance to try things different way with kids, so there's really know way of knowing the answer to your question. Who knows - maybe if Hitler had had different parents, he might have turned out differently - but we have no way to know that.
2007-12-10 11:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i very much disagree with you. we raised our son right, pay your bills and so on but i guess i could say it didn't take. he got around some losers now he acts like them (only wants to be around if theres some thing in it for them) we did not raise him that way. some times they just go their own way.
2007-12-10 11:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by newbe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can do everything for your child but they still choose to take the wrong path. Perfectly healthy kids
2007-12-10 11:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy Pooler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋