Before we were dating, she was helping me out with my financial troubles, then we becaome friends. Her and I have been dating for 3 months now. I really love her and she loves me. I've been through a bad marriage before, and she has helped me out through a lot of my personal struggles.
2007-12-10 10:27:16 · 57 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes!!!! you should really get to know someone before rushing into marriage. ideally this takes up to 2 or more years. 3 months is not enough time to decide if you are ready to make a commitment like that, especially if there was any kind of turmoil, like financial trouble involved. get over that, let the dust settle, then see what happens.
2007-12-10 10:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by bella36 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, Wise up!! Hell yes, it is way too early to propose! If you haven't dated her for at least a year, it is too soon!!
I don't mean known her for a year- Dated her that long!
I have known too many people in my life that met a girl, thought they knew her well enough after a few months and got married. Almost every one of them got a divorce after One year! The rest took Two. I think there are maybe Two that worked out long term.
A divorce will coast an arm and a leg. Then you will regret it for a long time.
One other guy was so excited that he met a girl one day, he came to me and said since I was his best friend, he needed my advice and he wanted me to be his best man. He said he met this girl that day and knew her for about Three hours and he wanted to get married already! He wanted to go buy a ring that day and propose to her with in the next couple hours!
I told him the same thing. The next day, he saw the girl again and tried to say hi to her. She ignored him completely and tried to get her male friends to attack him!
Look before you leap! Really think about it before you commit to some thing this big.
2007-12-10 10:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been through a bad marriage before do you want a repeat performance? You would have thought you would have learned from your mistakes but obviously not. You need a lot more time to evaluate a relationship than 3 months.
2007-12-10 10:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by jay k 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 months does seem like a quick courtship, but you know your heart. My dad was in a bad marriage with my mom. When she left, he raised us on his own for a bit, but when he met my stepmother--he just knew. They met in October and married in January!! (they have lived a VERY HAPPY and inspiring 21 years together!--still going strong) He'd been married already and knew what he was looking for. My stepmom was previously married, and widowed.
It all depends on where the two of you are at in LIFE. I mean if you know what you want and as does she, see what she thinks. Drop hints, talk about the "possibility" of marriage. See what she wants for her life as far as kids, careers, aspirations. You want your next marriage to last forever with the person that you love. but if you don't have compatible LONG TERM goals, then the realtionship is doomed to last happily only in the short term.
TALK about it with her. Get to know who she is, get a plan together for your life as a couple. Too many poeple marry young--all caught up in romance, the romance fades or hard times come and they crumble under the pressure.
If you are made for eachother, you can still spend time together getting to know one another without being married. Enjoy her company, meet her family, grow with her....
..no matter what you decide-know that it is YOUR decision, do what you feel is right in your heart AND your head!
2007-12-10 10:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at least 25 and she is about the same, you may be adult enough to consider marriage. But, date her for at least 2 years and see if you still get along. Divorce rate in the good old USA is approaching 60%. Don't burden your new girl with the problems of your failed marriage.
2007-12-10 10:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tex S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. I had a teacher who has since pasted away, but he only knew his wife 6 weeks before they married. They were married until his death about 10 years ago. He told our class she was the love of his life and they were in their late 40's or early 50's then. I went to school with their 2 sons as well. He served in WWll so that will give you his age.
2007-12-10 10:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah too soon wait a few more months but really that depends on u if u're ready and she is so then it really wont be too early just think about do u know enough of her and well u two can move in with each other for a few months and see if the marriage will work out....
2007-12-10 10:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. T. Giggles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least a couple of more months and then also do not have a rush engagement bcuz lots of things happen during engagement so you should use that time to really be sure of what you need and want. True love waits.
2007-12-10 10:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by ♥True love waits♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she sticks with you through the bad times, then she is a good woman. If you really want to marry her, think really long. Marriage is a commitment. People should hold it sacred. Just remember if you think you and her can have that commitment of staying with eachother forever through good times even in bad, giving and having support for eachother, then marry her!
2007-12-10 10:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by kwest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months? Good heavens, Is this a race or a relationship? Wait at least six months; then a year's engagement would give you more time to be really sure. At least wait until you've stayed with her through her bout with the flu.
2007-12-10 10:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋