There's this guy that I have mad feelings for, but he doesn't feel the same way. I am going through a lot right now and it would be nice to have him around, but he barely even wants to talk to me anymore. I don't know what I've done to make him feel this way. He's a really nice guy( the whole reason I fell for him in the first place) but I don't think he cares like he used to. We were really good friends. I talked to him today to see if he wanted to go out,but Him and his boys might go out tonight if they don't then we could. I know were only friends, but it's not enough for me right now. I've thought about calling him back to tell him don't even waste his time trying to fit me in his schedule because I don't want to go out. To tell him that I care about him way too much to be just friends. I'm sick of feeling like I have to practically beg you to go out with me. I want to tell him not to call me again. Even though I really like him I'm tired of feeling hurt, but I'm scared. I don't know what to do right now I want him in my life so bad but if this is all it's going to be I don't know if it's worth it. I don't want to regret it. Can someone please help me......should I let him go? what shall I do? What shall I say to him?
2007-12-10 10:21:01 · 17 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But should I keep him as a friend or cut him off completely?
2007-12-10 10:29:12 · update #1
Let him go. His coldness is because he doesn't want to around you but he doesn't want to hurt you at the same time. There will be someone else around the corner, I promise.
2007-12-10 10:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Not so looney afterall 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Letting someone go is probably one of the hardest obstacles in life. I have had a very similar situation, only difference was that we dated, but he saw us more as friends. It hurts I know, but someone else will come along. Sit down with him, call him over and talk, and figure out whats up with you both, and try to understand both views.
Remember, you don't need a boyfriend to get though tough times, just a good friend for a shoulder to lean on. A boyfriend won't make the problems better, they might just seem to be, but they will always be at the back of your head.
I hope this helped.
Edit: If you say hes as great as he sounds, then keep him why lose a great friend over something small.
2007-12-10 18:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea Meow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I know how you feel, I think this happens to all of us at one point in our lives. Honesty and communication are the two things that I recommend you. This does not mean you gonna be happy with the results but at least you know that you told him how you feel and the most important thing is that you TRIED. Dont give up if you really like him but dont push it. Maybe is not that he does not feel the same way about you but maybe...right now..he is not ready for commitment or he is scared. You know how guys are. Talk to him, if he tells you that he does not feel the same way you do...well girl...next!! It hurts...i know but at least you dont have to wonder and then feel bad everyday because of his attitude. There are more guys out there and maybe this is not the right one. I dont think is fair that you are feeling this way because he does not want to spend time with you, specially if you didnt do anything wrong. Talk to him and tell him how you feel...that wont be worst than feeling bad and sad every single day. Find out why is he acting this way. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you and remember...it takes time to forget and go on but you will be fine. :)
2007-12-10 18:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sofy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and find someone who will like you as much as you like them. I just got out of a situation like yours and I feel so much better. I got tired of hoping that we could become more than friends. It was a strictly platonic friendship. It's been two months now and I feel so much better. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 18:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm I'd say let him, if he's too "busy" then he ovbiously doesnt really care for you. If you really like him and really dont want to break up with him, give him a wake up call, say something forward or do something really ncie for him. It's really up to you what exactly you could say. if hes really being a *****, then just dump him, it really isn't worth going out with a guy that you really like if he doesnt return the favor, its pointless cause the relationship would ovbiously never last
2007-12-10 18:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by i2010h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go for now. You need some distance and perspective. Relationships are two way streets. You need someone who feels the same way about you as you feel about them. He doesn't share your feelings. Start looking at other boys.
2007-12-10 18:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cool it for a while and see what happens. You cannot make anyone like you or want to go out with you.
2007-12-10 18:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to leave someone you like alone. It will be hard, but make yourself unavailable. Change your numbers, don't reply back to him via emails or cell phone, pretend his doesn't exisist anymore. Time will heal all pain. Out of site. Out of mind. Move on.
2007-12-10 18:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ya have mad feelings tell him but tell him not to feel bad for you and then ask him if he likes you but dont let the moment go akward that could be a bad thing .
2007-12-10 18:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by dimond32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows that your going through a hard time right now in your life, and he STILL doesn't find time to spend with you......forget him, don't waste your time hun, it'll just hurt you more and more the more he rejects you, i know it sounds harsh, but it's the truth
2007-12-10 18:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Raman . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋