Am I a bad kid?

Question

I had a really bad week.
On Monday, I got kicked out of hebrew school. It was a long time coming. My Rabbi, teacher, and principal all ganged up on me and told me (and some friends) to never come back. I thought this was a little harsh.
On tuesday, I found out i was failing Spanish Class.
On wendsay, I severly pissed off my spanish teacher. I pissed him off enough to give me afterschool detention. I told my father to pick me up at the local coffee house, because I didn't want to tell him. He says I lied.
On thursday, I failed to report to detetion because I couldnt find my teacher. I walked around the school for like 20 minutes, and couldnt find him. Finnally, I saw my math teacher, and he told me to just go home, so I did.
On friday, my parents, my divorced parents who hate eachother, and dread the very thought of being in the same room, three-way call me, and tag-team yell at me.
On top of all this, I think im having a Jewish identity crisis. Am I really a bad kid or Jew?

Answer 1

Don't see yourself as jewish, you are a human like everyone else.

Answer 2

You are a bad kid. Sorry, but it all appeared to have just caught up with you in one week. Seriously, you did not fail Hebrew School and Spanish in one day, my friend! You have been playing the jerk and working up to this one bad decision at a time for weeks now.
So the question is - when will you start making better decisions? (Here's a hint: pronto, que?)
And this was an important learning week, wasn't it? You learned on Monday, that you spent too much time in school being a wise-@ss. You learned on Tuesday that you really, really should have paid attention and attended and done the homework for Spanish Class. Wednesday you learned that having bad people skills and lying are not good ways to get ahead in life. Thursday, you learned that you need to pay attention to serve detention and you math teacher knows nothing about detention so stopping to yak with him was useless. Friday you learned that if you spend weeks goofing off and not paying attention and not doing your work and not responding correctly to teacher inquiries and not telling the truth and not knowing where you are supposed to be...you at last get all the attention you want from your parents, but in all the wrong ways.
So, you need to work harder at being a man next week and less of a child. (I am assuming you had the Bar Mizvah?) That's about it. You may not make it the first try, but keep working at being a man and someday your word will be your bond and you will listen and study and pay attention and do as you should. Then you will stop being a child and be a man.

Answer 3

No, you're perfectly ok. All of this will pass, things will get better. There are no "bad" kids, only bad situations. Keep your chin up! Everyone can have a bad week, adults have them too, but every Monday you start a new one and can make it better than the last one. Try for a more positive attitude in school and things might smooth out for you - I know the situation with your parents isn't good, but that's no excuse for acting up, you have to behave in school.

And leave the whole "Jewish identity crisis" thing alone for a while. You have lots of time to deal with religious issues, right now focus on getting through being a kid! Hope this helps a bit.

Answer 4

Do what you think is right. =p.i am not jewish so i don't know anything about the rules and stuff...but i know pissing off your teacher can't be good...what on earth did you do....? well i am not the one to talk lol i piss of my teacher too lol ( but i dont like her). Any ways if you got a good reason and you think its right...seriousely think it over =p and stop pissing your teacher off... you should be allright...maybe except for the parent part...i do lots of things my parents dont like and understand, but i know its the right thing to do for now. tell your teacher why you failed to report to detention btw...your parents and spanish teacher can yell at your math teacher instead...lol

Answer 5

You are not a bad kid, you're just having a bad week. We all have those sometimes. In the future though, try to be more straight forward with your parents and let them know what's happening with you and maybe next time they wont be so harsh.... ok

Hope this week is the opposite.... Blessings

Answer 6

Well I don't think you are a bad kid. Are you leaving something out? They had to kick you out for a reason. Maybe you did a bad thing but nobody is all good or all bad. Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe you should talk to your counselor if you don't want to talk to your parents. They can help you sort things out. It will get better but you have to make it better.

Answer 7

I don't know whether you're a bad kid /Jew or not. But it sounds like the adults around you are pretty useless for what you need. They are at least as much to blame as you are and they aren't having the same crap as you.

Answer 8

I think you are a kid angry over her parents and the situation they have caused you to be in the middle of and are yelling at them by refusing to do what ya just gotta do anyway, school stuff.

Answer 9

You aren't a bad kid but you aren't good, either. You may need to find a counselor at your old school and tell them the same stuff you mentioned here.

You also need to talk to your parents about your problems, too.

Answer 10

You don't sound like a real bad kid from the info you gave.
But, having said that, you do need to get your act together. Bite the bullet. Get back in school.

Answer 11

sounds to me like you're putting blame on other people.. i dont know what actually happened, but you dont seem to be putting any of the blame on yourself, which is not to say that everything is your fault, but just saying that maybe you should pay more attention, do better work, etc. why did you get kicked out of hebrew school? maybe you dont like your religion, that's a possibility.