Is he really not ready to commit or is he just not that into me?

Question

Frank and I have dated in the past, we were suppose to get married. We did the whole ring and hall shopping but stress got to me so i decided to break-up with him. He was devastated, couldn't leave his house for weeks. The reason I broke up with him was a little to do with not appreciating eachother. After seeing how upset he was after the break-up I realized how mush he really did care about me. We decided to give it another chance but a few months after that he decided it was not working. He cought me trying to chat with guys on-line. I was idiot. I made mistakes but he couldn't be with me anymore. After 2 months apart, he came back saying that he missed me. He wanted to see how things will go, if they will fall into place and we can try again. It's been a few months and he says he is still not ready to commit. He says we had it all planned out the first time around and look what happened. The matter is he still cannot define us as a couple. Should I see how it plays out? HELP!

Answer 1

Ouch, you guys suck.... reminds me of a young me, o the memories! *SLAP* (that was me slapping you) DON'T EVER JUST BRECK A RELATIONSHIP UP IN A SITUATION WERE HONESTY WOULD OF BEEN A BETTER CHOICE!!!!! You idiot (no offense, I take this stuff seriously, as I know you most) that was HURTFUL! DECIETFUL! AND VERY, VERY HARD TO GET PAST! Not that I'm making excuse for him, he isn't exactly having faith in you, which means the trust is hurting, which means the relationship is hurting, which means it isn't about reaching for commitment anymore. Its about you guys understanding each other ALOT BETTER! Anything less then that is just treating the problem, your ability to relate honesty and with trust has been broke, ether fix that, or suffer...... as far as his whole no commitment thing goes, seems more of a reaction to have some sort of control over his heart, when in all actualilty your pretty much in control. Talk this thru, thats the only choice you have left now........ and please for the love of everything that is love, don't breck an f'in relationship up just because you don't won't to be honest about how you feel.... selfish.... this guys a little kiddo (like us all) and we don't tend to take... disruption? betrail? bull-crap? Well......