This guy means alot to me? 10 pts!?

Question

My guy friend means alot to me. When we were in 8th grade I had depression when I went on accutane. I was also suicidal and wanted to kill myself for no reason at all. He found out about a poem I wrote about the way I felt and he turned it in to out principal so he could stop me from killing myself. I got off the medecine. In ninth grade he asked me out 3 different times saying i mean alot to him. I wanted to go out with him but I knew it wouldnt work because I was really scared. Now im 16 and im starting to have feelings for him. I want to tell him how much he means to me but im scared he wont be my bf becuz I rejected him. What should I do?

Answer 1

Boy, you a lot of answers, don't you ! :)

I THOUGHT ABOUT THIS ANSWER FOR THIRTY MINUTES AND CALLED MY COUSINS AND FRIENDS FOR ADVICE,
PLEASE READ ME FIRST ! :)

Spend some fun time with him, talk to him often (more than before) .
Boys are people who do not usually get startled when a girl who they liked tells them about her heart.

Ask him out a couple of times. Make sure it is something fun like mini golf, or ice skating. I think this will give him time to adjust to you new feelings for him. Tell him that you like/love him, after you have spend some fun time with him.

Start by saying that you feel sorry that you did not go out with him in 9th grade (don't say that you feel sorry for him!!!! , say that you are sorry. for yourself is implied!!!! )...
I bet that you know what to say after that, don't you. If you are not sure, just remember that you have to reply to what he says to you when you tell him that you "feel sorry that you did not go out with him in 9th grade".
I say that at worst he may walk away, if he does, you must try to ask him out again, try to chat with him, all the stuff i mentioned above.
If he ignores you, do exactly what he did for you in 9th grade, that will surely tell him about your feelings for him.

Hope this helps,
Cheers, Sam :)

Answer 2

Tell him exactly what you just wrote. Tell him why you didn't say yes before that you really like him and are ready to give you guys a chance together. If he doesn't feel the same way then maybe you should just leave it I mean you don't want to lose a good friend..eventually he'll come around...or you'll find someone else that you will like. BUt don't give up yet, just let him know how you feel and don't leave anything out.

Answer 3

Sounds like this guy means a lot to you. Take a chance! Hey, if he cares about you, chances could be that, even though you rejected him, he could be waiting just for you! Does he have a gf, has he asked anyone else out...you probably know...if he hasn't, it's probably that he still likes you and is waiting. I hope it works out for you. He obviously saw you through a trying time in your life and still wanted to be with you rather than get up and run away, he's a good guy!

Answer 4

You should do what you think is right. If this guy means a lot to you, you should take a chance. Think about this:

He probably still has feelings for you. He could just be holding it in. I'd go for it!

Of course there are some risks, like your friendship, but you two sound very close. I'm sure you'll be friends despite what happens.

I partly know how you feel. I don't have as big a bond with my guy friend, and I didn't feel the way you did when you were in 8th grade, but I thought he might have feelings for me, and I might have feelings for him.

Do you think he likes you that way? If so, then I'd definitely go for it. Even if you're unsure about how he feels, you shouldn't hold it in, you could wait for a really long time. If you were to be rejected, then if your friendship is strong enough, then, you'll still be able to be friends.

Follow what you think is right. No one can decide for you. I'm, sure you'll make the decision that is right for you.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

If he didn't leave you back then and he knew what was going out and still pursued you, then nine times out of 10 he will be open to going out with you. Those are times when you realize who are/were your friends. Don't get down and out if he doesn't accept, he could be in a serious relationship but open to the possibility of friendship. That is how a relationship starts out..by being friends first, afterall it has been a few years. I am glad that you were treated and are on the mend.

Answer 6

I think you should tell him. You're right, you are taking a risk of him saying no, but at least he will know how you feel. Learn not to live by "what if's". People should get the flowers while they can still smell them, understand? Just tell him, I'm sure you will feel good about yourself no matter what the outcome is. Even if he says no, at least you know that you can gather up enough courage to say whats on your mind. Plus, he might say yes, but you will never know unless you open your mouth and speak.

Answer 7

I'm willing to bet he still has feelings for you, unless you rejected him in a really awful way. But if he's repressing his feelings now, it's out of respect for you. If you're scared, try writing a letter that explains exactly how you feel, and how your feelings have changed. Then muster up your courage and give it to him! You've got to try or you'll never know what might have happened.

Answer 8

Tell him how you feel
because if he still has feelings for you it wont matter if you have already said no. I went back to a guy like 3 months after he asked me out and i rejected him and he went out with me. You never know. You should definitely tell him because you will regret it later if you don't.

Answer 9

Sweetheart, I dont mean to be offensive but you are too young to date. With your history I would seek counseling and get active in other things in life such as charity and giving of your time and efforts. Have you thought of volunteering at a hospital or a nursing home? I know your feelings are valid but as a young girl I remember my feelings changing like the sunrise and sunset. Take care of yourself first. The emptiness inside cannot be fulfilled by another person. You have to be satisfied with you first for a healthy relationship and the relationship will come later. Please wait untill you are 18 to date. I know in this day and age it is easy to feel pressured to belong and do what others are doing but for the sake of you please wait.

Answer 10

Fear is keeping U from the truth. All those teenager shows depicting how fear[unlogical emotion] keeps people apart. now U are letting that happen ?

Not that U rejected the man ,Man he is, U wisely could not handle the emotions that man and woman relationship demands. Immature from depression is not rejection . Is smart waiting until the times MORE right.

GOD bless u GOD is LOVE