Okay I know my best friend she will talk sexual and flirt with any guy. And my boyfriend called Danielle and they were talking. Not sure what, but i know they aren't cheating but supposefully my best friend danielle said she would never but she does anyway!! WTF?? I don't want to be clingy but we are in a really good relationship right now and I want it to stay that way. But if he's gonna call another girl and if danielle is gonna flirt back then my chances of breaking up with him is a huge increase. So what do I do??
2007-12-10 09:11:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to your best friend first about this. tell her that you're worried about this and see what she says about that. then talk to your boyfriend about this too.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-10 09:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You certainly CANNOT forbid them to speak! He's your boyfriend, she's your best friend, and so forbidding them to speak would only make both of them reject you, especially if they're friends. That's no way to treat people you love.
Look, if you're in a good relationship, I don't even know why you posted this. It seems that you have some problems trusting your boyfriends. I really think that you're overthinking this - just because they talked on the phone doesn't mean that he's cheating on you or anything of the sort!
Furthermore, in relationships, flirting is pretty natural. Just because he flirts with other girls, or other girls flirt with him, doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you. It's a way of keeping your relationship with him alive, because you're the one he goes back to at the end of the day. I really think that you're being too jealous.
If you think that you have a problem on your hands, talk to them both seperately. Tell them both how much they mean to you, but say that you're scared of losing him. Tell your best friend how important he is to you and that you really would ask her not to flirt with him if she is. try to be non-accusatory and kind. To him, tell him that he's very important and you want to know that you can trust him. Tell him that danielle is a huge flirt and that it worries you a little. If he's as great as you think he is, he'll tell you you have nothing to worry about.
Good luck!
2007-12-10 17:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he get danielles number?
You can make a casual comment to both of them - that you dont understand the talking and I am sure each of them would feel the same way, I am sure he would not feel comfortable with you calling his buddies and I am sure danielle would not feel comfortable with you calling her boyfriend.
You can do this in a nice way where it wont be a fight.
2007-12-10 17:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor girl! I was int he same situation! BFFs will break ur heart so dont put too much stock in a promise!
Its all downhill from here, he will keep calling her and then tell her that u dont want them talking she will get jealous and think i'll teach her and seduce him. tehy will have sex and fall in love and both ignore u for life.
BUT the good news is that tey will never be hapy, she will always be the whore men use and abuse, he will be a cheating coward loser and u will gain selfworth and land the man that is all for you!
try not to fall anymore in love with him but keep ur friend really close... always keep ur enemies closer than ur friends.
also if u have doubts about her NEVER date anybody she sets u up with or knows becuase they will always be connected to each other and have each others numbers.
2007-12-10 17:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by twotimesalady 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they are being sneaky and discussing your Christmas gift. Don't jump to conclusions sweetie. You know her--she's your best friend and she would never do you wrong. If you're concerned, you should be concerned with your bf. He's that one that called her, right? Ask him why if it bothers you. But I think they were plotting for a big surprise gift. I did that behind my best friend's back with her boyfriend several times.
2007-12-10 17:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably sit down with your boyfriend, and your bff,
and talk about how you feel, get a stick or something and say, only people with this stick, is allowed to speak, and you pass it around, saying your opinions.
don't sit with your legs crossed. when your legs aren't crossed it shows you are being serious.
you and your bf and bff, will work this out.
2007-12-10 17:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Abby,,[[RAWR]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo, you should NOT have to worry about your best friend taking your man. She obviously is NOT your best friend cause best friends watch your back, not stab it. Id dump Her and tell your man that your dont want him flirtin with anyone but you!
2007-12-10 17:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what they were talking about
it's ok for him in some cases to talk to your friend but there's a limit and he should not cross it. ask him as well and see if they both tell u the same thing
2007-12-10 17:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forbid him to speak to her
2007-12-10 17:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Chris Hansen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋