To keep her religious beliefs to herself (or leave)?
We have a few friends and relatives who come around of various beliefs; atheist, Wiccan, Voudouan, humanist, Mormon, pantheist, agnostic and Baptist. My mother (Pentacostal) was the only one who would not accept others beliefs and started preaching at our last gathering. I told her then that if she couldn't show proper respect to my friends and family, she could come back when they weren't there. That's right, I threw her out of the party. Should I give her another chance to show some respect, or just tell her not to bother showing up? My home, my rules, I'm just curious what you folks would do?
2007-12-10 08:03:27 · 24 answers · asked by Enigma®Ragnarökin' 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Great Old One: You are right that she won't live forever, but chances are (medically speaking) that she'll outlive me. lol
2007-12-10 18:22:16 · update #1
sinnier * giggles*
I would lay it straight with your mum and tell her that you are having friends round and that she has a choice
come and respect them and no repeat of last time ... or dont come at all
your house .. your rules
2007-12-10 08:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ Pangel ☮ 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I may be of the minority here but I think you did the right thing and it may be too soon for her to have learned the lesson (ie: realize that you are an adult and she should respect you, your home and your friends in this manner or she won't be involved in gatherings of the like, period).
I did something similar with my mom and now almost a year later, our relationship is better than it has been in a very long time. She needed time to adjust though... I don't think she would have been ready so soon as in your case.
I say, use your good judgment and do what will be most enjoyable all around. I'm sure you can come up with a good compromise that would upset your mom too much or make you feel bad, but also allow you to enjoy Christmas.
2007-12-10 08:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a mother, Enigma, (but not of course to make you feel guilty!) you must invite dear old old mom over. After all it is Christmas, you were her baby, and she loves you. If she's not still hurt about you kicking her out last time, mom will show up. Tell her beforehand however that if she feels she must proselytize your other guests, she'd better stay home. If she comes and still does it, show her the door. My feeling is that if she wants to see you badly enough, your mom will keep her mouth shut.That said, maybe some day you will just be looking back at this in a different light. She won't live forever.
2007-12-10 09:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian and I agree with you. It is your home and you should be respected. If your mother doesn't agree with you or your friends, perhaps she should stop by and say hello and then go somewhere else for Christmas. I do believe that you should be respectful of your mother and give her the option...and just remind her that you do not share her beliefs and that you would not appreciate a repeat of last year. Be polite about it..but firm. Be sure to tell her you love her and Happy Holidays..but that you do not have to share her beliefs.
2007-12-10 08:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sinnier could come in handy. We're doing comparative and superlative adjectives right now. Honestly, I'd talk to her and remind her of what happened the last time she attended a gathering at your house. If she agrees to abide by your rules, let her come, but if she doesn't just agree to get together at a different time.
2007-12-10 09:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give her another chance. In a case like this you might have to treat her like a toddler though. Sit her down and firmly tell her the ground rules and lay out the punishment for disobeying. I would hope that your mother is mature enough to abide by your rules and have a good time. If you have to kick her out again so be it. Don't feel guilty about it. If you spell it out clearly and she gets kicked out it will be by her choices.
2007-12-10 08:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by NOJ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Go with a supervised visit either before or after the holidays. Once the drugs or booze gets its hooks into you it's damn hard to get them out. Even worse if she's found someone to party with. Tough on the kids, but that, unfortunately, is life.
2016-05-22 21:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you respect her beliefs, and thus you do not expect her to keep company with people like your friends/family. You don't want to subject her to something she can't approve of. You know she will feel better if she can see you some other time, without everyone else around. Etc.
2007-12-10 08:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe Mom learned her lesson from the last gathering, and will not preach on Christmas???
I'd give her another chance...you can always kick her out again if she gets out of hand.
2007-12-10 08:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her a chance, but make sure to give her a strict warning before the party starts. Tell her it will be her last chance and if she screws it up she'll have to leave right away.
2007-12-10 08:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since Christmas is a time of peace I'd suggest not telling her. I know it's a sin but it's even sinnier to cause people pain and suffering on such a holiday.
2007-12-10 08:09:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋