I am currently in a long distance relationship with a guy my age. I am almost 18 and I do have curves. I am alitle bit taller than he is and when it comes to weight, I weigh about 20 pounds more than he does. He believes that he is fat and that he needs to lose weight. I told him that he didn't need to lose weight and he said he didn't care what I said. So I asked him what his dream girl looks like. He said blonde, blue eyed, and thin. Which I am not any of these. He said it doesn't matter what I look like but I know deep down it does. He says he loves me for who I am all the time. I cried myself to sleep that night because I knew I would never be the girl he truly wants. That has been a month ago, and I have developed an eating disorder because of this situation. Should I tell my boyfriend that I have an eating disorder because of him? And if yes how do I tell him? Please someone help me!
2007-12-10 07:32:21 · 9 answers · asked by raidergurl2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o dear.....isn't it just crazy what guys do to us?..sweety..first of all, EVERY guy's dream is a blonde blue eyed thin bimbo...but in the end....they always end up choosing a girl unlike that....they always end up with girls like you!.....(meant as a compliment). There's absolutely nothing wrong with you the way you are now, i mean if there is, he wouldn't be in this relationship with you now would he?....He obviously fell for your personality first. (from what you said it sounded like talked to you first before seeing you?) .which is the BEST thing a guy can do. I don't blame you for being sad for what he said in describing his dream girl...i'd be too. But know this....we are all beautiful in our own ways, there are enough of those thin, blonde, blue eyed bimbos out there already...us "other" girls....must STAND UP for our UNIQUENESS! So check into see a counselor and get healthy. Tell your boyfriend that what he said reallly affected you and that he was being a stereotypical jerk. But you really shouldn't be angry with him....you can't blame him for wanting what our society has named the "Hott, sexy" look. Just fix yourself up, be who YOU ARE, and smile. He can dream about his dream girl all day long...but at the end of that day...he'll be wanting you. and honestly that's all that matters. Cheer up dear, don't waste your time being depressed over his dream girl.
Stay strong, stay true
hope this helps =]
2007-12-10 07:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your dream guy look like? I think a lot of people (not everybody) have a fantasy girl/guy that they probably wouldn't like as a person if they met them. Your guy likes you as the whole package, personality and looks. So just because his fantasy is different doesn't mean he doesn't like you best the way you are. You should ask him if he wants YOU to look different. Clearly, he doesn't think you should be his fantasy girl, and he's happy with you as you are. But if you really have to ask again a different way, do so.
Anyway. If you're going to change yourself to be his "fantasy girl" anyhow, and nothing he says will stop you, you might as well get contacts and dye your hair while you're at it. And don't go for an eating disorder. Ultimately, you'll probably look better and be healthier if you go on a diet and exercise.
2007-12-10 07:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by rozefyre86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just calling him and let him know about your disorder and then hear what he has to say and if he ask why? tel him cause of the question you ask him (BUT DO NOT MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE THE BAD GUY K) Then after that go see a doctor of nutrition to help you lose weight
2007-12-10 07:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by David F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you should tell him that you've been feeling bad about yer body. either he was too honest with you to begin with or he's not worth having a relationship an eating disorder over if doesn't like the way you look and makes you feel bad about yerself than he's nt worth it or you need to tell him that you have a problem with it and try to work it out.
2007-12-10 07:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by lost in a haze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don;t think you should tell him you have an eating disorder because of him because it would make him feel really bad u should tell just trust him when he says he likes you for you and not your looks and if ur not his dream girl but he still likes you then you've got to know that he must really like you for you
2007-12-10 07:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by urglurglugrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't just accept you for the way you are than you need to send him packing,because you shouldn't have to put yourself through a lot of BULL**** for him.He ain't worth it and it's not good for your health.
2007-12-10 07:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf and if your bf obviously likes you the way you are otherwise he wouldn't be with you
2007-12-10 07:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truely likes you he'll support you.if he doesn't he's not the one for you
2007-12-10 07:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What should I do?"
Give more descriptive questions.
2007-12-10 07:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by god0fgod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋