My dad's got an AWFUL temper and he has had to have anger management in the past. I think, as I get older, i've started to inherit his behaviour. I'm 19 and the other day I was walking down the street and some guy walking up to me (who looked over 40) walked up to me real close and blew kisses at me and I lost it I started shouting and swearing at him in the street!
2007-12-10 07:20:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Laughing my as* off honey. That is exactly what you should do in that case. Now if you just start deciding to get into fights and always act like this when people approach you properly, then maybe you have issues
2007-12-10 07:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you even pose this question tells me that you're way ahead of your father regarding anger management. You should be glad you have this insight, because it takes a lot of people years to realize that anger is not a solution. If you think you could use some help, research anger management and develop tools to help you deal with this kind of situation.
However, if someone as old as 40 was walking closely behind you, blowing kisses, and you're as young as you are, you probably had good reason to get mad!
2007-12-10 15:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy deserved it. You can control how you respond to the feelings you have. Just make sure that you don't let things build up - with higher levels of emotion you carry around on average, the easier it gets to lose control and do or say something you'll regret. You have learned some behaviour from your parent but it doesn't have to control you. If you feel anger occasionally, it's normal but if a lot of things are bothering you - work on letting it go. Read Emotional Intelligence by Dan Goleman - it really helped me and it's one of the few things that helped. Its a process you learn, practice and work on though. After a while it only feels normal to be calm again, instead of aggravated.
2007-12-10 15:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by tshnobodysfool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't inherit behavior like that as you get older, it's ingrained in you from the time you are a small child if that's the kind of stuff that the adults around you model. Anyhow, should you have yelled at that guy? Probably not. He could have hurt you and even if it wasn't that serious it wasn't worth getting all worked up about. You should have just laughed or rolled your eyes or ignored him. You should get your anger in check through counseling before it causes you real problems at work or in a relationship or causes you to abuse your future children.
2007-12-10 15:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Momof2grrls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are right your triggers are going off. Stop spouting off when you are right about somthing. YOu currently only shut up when you are wrong. Or is it the other way around? Every argument is based on who is right and who is wrong. If you are right and fight and win the battle you may lose the war. (the bigger picture) You must be hot (in more ways than one), to have a stranger blow you a kiss on the street. May God help you when your looks are gone. You may need anger management. Anger is a mental health issue. I recommend you google 'mental health through will training'. Good luck.
2007-12-10 15:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wisdom Seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One good thing is that you realize that anger is not good.
Two, a stranger coming so close as to start kissing is quite strange. The law actually calls it molesting and sexual abuse.
Now that you are 19, you should try to stay away from home as much as possible and have supportive friends and a few moments of laughter and fun in a day. That will keep you cool.
2007-12-10 15:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ash66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you work out or run at all. Doing that may help.
Of course if some perv starts hitting on you then you have a right to be angry.
You may need to try the old trick of counting to 10 and thinking about whether or not you want to give up control of the situation by going off. Sometimes the best way of getting back at someone is not giving them the satisfaction of letting them know they got to you.
2007-12-10 15:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by NJGit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know some people will be annoyed with my answer, but....
If this is a pattern with you, you may want to consider medication. I used to find myself freaking out about nothing all the time. I finally went to my doctor and they put me on Wellbutrin. This is an anti-depressant and mood-stabilizer. It has changed my life. I no longer yell at my kids all the time, I no longer get all angry if my husband doesn't put the newspaper away. I'm not a zombie or anything, I just am in control of myself for the first time.
2007-12-10 15:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by falco_aesolon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right to feel offended by this but your reaction was totally ott! You may have learnt a bit of this from your dad which is totally normal, but start learning how to control it now so you don't lose it all the time and have to do anger managment as well.
2007-12-10 15:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by lexmad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say anger can be hereditary (meaning it passes through the family) but do what i did think about the values of others and cool it or you may go down the same route as your farther (anger management)
2007-12-10 15:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋