2007-12-10 07:14:27 · 28 answers · asked by tamara b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouldnt ask him anything, rather TELL him that you know what he's been up to.
is it wrong to go through someones personal belongings, yes, but that doesnt mean that people dont do it.
2007-12-10 07:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by marseerocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to confirm if he is cheating. Ive been through this already. Get the numbers from the messages and wait until you are by yourself to call this person back. Ask the other party first that way when you do confront him you already have her side of the story. You wanna make sure he is really cheating before you confront him with false information because it will mess up your trust factor in a long run. Once the other party has confirmed that there is something going on then it times for you to confront your boyfriend with the new information. Just sit him down and let him know calmly about the other female. If you yell at him he will not listen verses you talking to him in a professional manner. Let him know who the other party is and what was said. Call her on the phone and put her on speaker phone to come clean in front of your guy if he still denies the allegations. You saw the actual proof for yourself so that tells you all you need to know. Him denying the text messages only hurts him because he just lost something good and this should open your eyes to what kind of guy he is. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 07:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by TASHA T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were snooping out of suspicion or insecurity then is this reallly a healthy relationship to be in in the first place?
If you innocently ran across them (which is possible but unlikely - but I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt) the fact that they are there and so easily accessible makes me wonder if he wants to get caught.
Either way I definitely think that the issue needs to be addressed. His lack of respect and consideration for you as his significant other says a lot. Just be straight with him - tell him you have evidence that there is something going on and you are hurt by it and want him to be honest about the situation. You don't have to give specifics and tell him it's messages in his phone if you don't want to.
I hope that you get the answers that you need and find the strength to do what is necessary for your own happiness and health.
Best Wishes!
Leighann
2007-12-10 07:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by swtgaangel99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him about them. I found my bf's phone over the weekend and it took all i had not to look at it, and if i had remembered about text messages...I would've looked at it. Since you did look and you know whether he will be lying or not when you ask..just ask him some questions about the texts. And decide beforehand how you are going to handle the situation.
2007-12-10 07:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glade you didn't marry him>Sorry>You deserve better> If you say you seen it on his phone he will make the issue of you looking on his phone>So either except him and his cheating or leave>Life to short for the drama> Also will he give you some disease>
2007-12-10 07:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd confront him.
HOW? Ask him if he'd have a problem with you sending or receiving the kind of messages you found before you tell him you found them in his phone.
2007-12-10 07:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confront him about them - but make sure you have a really good excuse for going through his messages or he'll turn the tables on you.
2007-12-10 07:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by lexmad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, then you would have to explain why you were invading his privacy. If he's cheating just do yourself a favor and dump him, he won't be overly bothered by it and you don't even need to give a reason, just do yourself a favor and move on.
Otherwise, pounce on him, lay him out for it! Then dump him flat.
Don't bother with a cheater.
2007-12-10 07:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do ask him about them he will take it as you were going through his stuff. Then he would deny ever getting those messages. In the end you would have gained nothing and started an argument.
2007-12-10 07:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say a word about the messages. Just tell him it's over because he just doesn't do it for you anymore and you've found yourself a real man!
2007-12-10 07:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Vivena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him the phone, then throw it on the ground and bust it into a thousand pieces. Then leave. You don't have to say anything.
2007-12-10 07:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋