I have really grown to love him and the thought of another person's hands on him makes me a little sick. He has told me that I am the one that he loves and the others will be just sex. I am open to the idea of opening our bedroom when we eventually become bored with each other (in the distant future), but not after 3 months. Can anyone shed some light or experience on this topic?
2007-12-10 06:27:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Correction: we stareted dating 7 months ago and just 3 months ago decided to be "together."
2007-12-10 07:41:52 · update #1
Open relationships can work for some couples, but in my experience both partners need to want to choose that style of relationship. If you are feeling "sick" at the thought, then it sounds like it wouldn't be comfortable for you.
Maybe you should ask him why he wants to open the relationship now? What need/s of his are not getting met, that he hopes to meet in this way? If he needs more variety, I'm betting you could come up with things to do. And if he is indeed "already bored," then maybe this is not the best relationship for you (and while breaking up sucks, if you should need to do it, doing it sooner is usually better).
If you want to find out more about open relationships, you might want to do a little reading. I'm including some links to websites and books on the topic. Honestly, though, it doesn't sound like the best choice for you at the moment.
Best of luck as you work all of this out!
2007-12-11 05:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by DawnD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Pain, get ready for it. You know, the hurt thay makes you feel so very cold inside to where you want to curl up in a fetal position? Yes, pain and hurt, and a reputation, an empty hollow feeling that you are a tool and you've compromised your most inner self, Yes, pain, get ready for it, make a nice little bed for it in ur heart where it can fester.
2007-12-10 14:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a few idiot friends who did this and guess what none of them are together anymore. Someone in the threesome always got jealous even though originally everything was consensual.
I'd never share that's just disgusting.
The guy wants his cake and to eat it too.
2007-12-10 14:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way! How could you do it in the future if you can't do it now? Why would you share someone you are in love with?
2007-12-10 14:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you now how do you think you will feel after it happens. Opening that door will most likely lead to heartache! Sorry
2007-12-10 14:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by firegirl0514 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe this is a real question b/c you're not consistent on how long you've been with him. it's either 7 months or 3 months make up your mind.
2007-12-10 14:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't get married and for the love of GOD, don't have children with this man. Whatever it is you feel for each other it is NOT love. Nothing permanent can come of your relationship. I would bet everything I own on it.
2007-12-10 14:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by lunatic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you feel uncomfortable about it, tell him. if you feel upset and keep it in, you'll just grow insecure and resent him. be honest with him honey, and tell him exactly how you feel. trust me, you are NOT a monster for saying no. you should be enough for him.
2007-12-10 14:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not good. Why would anyone want to do that AT ALL???? You both deserve each other!
2007-12-10 14:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋