i am 14, and a faithful baptist. one of my good friends are gay, she smokes, curses, and other sinful things. She's going through alot in her life, her dad abandoned her, her mom is gay, her step mom and mom think she is on drugs and having sex, and she isnt. she feels like there is no hope and said she wished she was dead/ i know that if only she turned to God, that things could get better. i know miracles happen but i really dont see her changing her sexual prefereances, and i believe its a sin. how can God help her if she isnt willing to sacrifice at lest that much. i know that if she would just turn to God that things would at least get on the right path. she cant talk to anyone bc its really hard for her to open up to ppl, so i am really glad that she has been talking to me. i dont want to shove my beliefs down her throat, but i dont know how to get started with helping her besides prayer. she posted this question....
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiUoGCKrgwgJyg.DmWTuD6Lsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071210074546AARv9vv
this is not a joke, any suggestions or advice? thanks!
2007-12-10 06:18:21 · 23 answers · asked by simplicity 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thye want her to see a phychiatrist and think she has metal problems.
i dont encourage her actions and she knows i dont support her, but i am a good friend and will not leave her when she needs me most,.
2007-12-10 06:24:46 · update #1
meNtal problems
2007-12-10 06:25:41 · update #2
i have tried to get her to talk to the school guidence coundselor and thats when shse told me that she cant just open up to someone and that she doesnt even tell her girlfriend as much as shesbeen telling me. i've convinced her to and she sent an email to a teacher a few hours ago but im not sure how much that will help
2007-12-10 06:33:18 · update #3
All you can do is just be there for her, PRAY for her, and leave it in God's hands. She has to find her way back on the righteous path by having faith and believe in the Lord.
Give her this scripture.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) Bible
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
-God Bless.
2007-12-10 06:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer, care, and share. These are the three most powerful ways you can help her. Pray for her. Pray that God will soften her heart, and reveal him self to her. Care. Be there when she needs you, be a true friend, but most of all, love her. Share. Share your faith with her. Don't start the conversation by saying, "you need Jesus in your life" or "you're going to hell", but just start the conversation off in an indirect way(think about it and use your creativity). Prayer and care are pretty easy, but I know how hard sharing is. Trust me. If God truly wants her, however, he will strengthen you, and soften your friend. Prayer. Care. Share.
Edit: Please don't listen to those saying "being gay is not a sin." It is a terrible sin, and I'm overjoyed you would like to help change your friend.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
"Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, or idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, NOR HOMOSEXUALS(sorry, caps is the only way to emphasize something on Y!A :), nor thieves, nor the covetous, not drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
2007-12-10 06:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your good friend the best thing I can think of is to just listen to her and be there for her if and when she asks for help. You can't force change on another person and you can't fix her. Don't judge her but if you have any love for her then you must learn to accept her for her. As a self-described faithful Baptist you might be familiar with 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - read it and put it into action. I included the link below for easy access
2007-12-10 06:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by stoopid munkee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
JUst continue to be her friend and be there for her when she needs you.... Give her the support she needs to make her own decesions..... Keep up the prayer..... Keep turning to God for your strength and support..... Things happen in Gods time not ours.... In the eyes of the law she is still a child, so the parent has the right and I might add the obligation to take care of her and do what is best.... Mom might be under stress herself about something...... By getting help for the daughter, it will turn into getting help for the family.... Saty calm and strong and keep your eyes on the Lord..... Sometimes a silent whisper is louder than a screaming shout....... go in peace....... God bless
2007-12-10 06:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your friend is going through is a serious psychological problem dealing with the abandonment by her father and the recent lifestyle changes by her mother. At 14, you are nowhere near equipped (spiritually, emotionally, or intellectually) to deal with problems of that magnitude.
Pray for her, talk to her. LISTEN more than talk. If she asks your opinion, preface any statement you make by saying that you love and care for her as a friend.
Do not condemn her or refuse to talk to her. As a Christian, we know that even Jesus didn't condemn the world...He came to save it.
Most of all, know that -you- are not responsible for -her- actions or her salvation. You can help, and you should help as much as you can. But you cannot take it upon yourself to save her. God does the saving. If she sees your silent example and notices the good that has come from you living your life as a Christian, that may help her more than talking to her ever could.
As I've said many times, just be there. And if she does look seriously depressed or talks about killing herself, tell your parents. I know that sounds like a snitch, but if it saves her life and gets her professional help, you will have done her a LOT of good.
2007-12-10 06:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by ninjaphobos 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, she has to be willling to listening. You are right, you can't force her but just talk to her as a friend that is really concerned. If she won't listen to you just continue to pray for her because the prayers of a righteous man availeth much. So keeping praying that God will deliver her from that spirit. Keep praying and believe that your prayers are being heard. Her sexual preference is a sin--an abomination to be exact.
2007-12-10 06:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by gods-chosen1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 Stay her friend and always be there to listen.
2 Pray about her and listen to what occurs to you - it may well be from God
3 Don't judge her and resist all temptation to do so.
4 See if you can agree on a mature adult that you can both trust such as a school teacher, a pastor or similar and arrange to see her/him to talk about the situation
Don't assume that, at this stage, she has to turn to God. Let her lean on your faith for a while.
2007-12-10 06:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves her just how she is. He sees her sins no differently than he sees mine. God has a way of bringing his people to an understand of what he wants in their life. If she accepts Jesus into her life she will be forced to change her life in many ways if she desires to dive deep into the Christian faith. It takes 1 sin to make us unworthy of Heaven and deserving of Hell, but God made a way for us, so that we could be sanctified(set apart) through the blood of Jesus.
Jesus loves you both the same.
God bless
I will be praying for you both.
† Sanctified Prayer Warrior †
2007-12-11 07:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courage. You are a true friend to her, but sometimes we have hard choices to make that only WE can make. Sometimes that can be hard for the people around us who want to help. The best thing you can do is to continue to support your friend while she makes her decisions. I know that is so hard to do sometimes. Have courage and have faith you will be fine. Your friend will find her own way in the goodness of time. It is her life and you cannot make her decisions for her.
I wish you all the luck and love you need.
2007-12-10 09:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by freyatru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to MAKE her turn to God. That's no use. You gotta be there for her, be a friend and not a saviour. You'll help her more that way. Being gay is not a sin. I do not believe that because I never saw anywhere and repeat anywhere that God himself said it is wrong. And I only believe Him and not interprtations of others.
I have no advice further. the girl just needs lots of love and I wish her all the best. And all luck to you too helping her.
2007-12-10 06:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by saskia r 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋