I am having a terrible time with my Bipolar disorder and no one understands. I think I need to go to the hospital and I am afraid to tell anyone. My husband thinks I need to be put on Xanax to solve my problems. I think it is much deeper than this. I am not sure what to say today.
2007-12-10 06:12:25 · 16 answers · asked by just julie 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Have you been put on Lithium sodium to control your bipolar disorder? You shouldn't have any trouble once you are on that. If your Dr. puts you on downers, it could just make you hyper. It's not a cure for bipolar, it will just make it swing to the other extreme. That sort of condition does that.
If your husband is flip and unsympathetic, why is he going to your appointment? Why is he now giving advice? Is he a doctor? What does he hope to do with this? Is he compelling you to do his bidding? Is he acting in a very bossy and opinionated manner? This is a big warning flag that he has a problem. Is he your problem? Is he making your moods worse? Is he making your mood swing from one extreme to the other to get him to give you sympathy? It all sounds very counter productive to me.
Are you fighting a lot? He's only make it all worse. When he becomes a doctor, you can pay him for his advice. Until then, why doesn't he stop meddling in things? Ask your doctor. You want to calm down and be neutral. You should be able to find a quiet place. Everything doesn't have to be a battle.
If you want to feel deep feelings, do it away from him. He won't go there, and he won't do that and he refuses to give it too much attention. Don't beat a dead horse, he won't do it. Accept him for that, and maybe he'll back off and leave you alone. He doesn't have the job requirements. Someone does, it's just not him. OK then. Let it rest.
2007-12-10 07:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by sisterwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. When your in a psychiatrists office, that is supposed to be a safe place. They will do everything in their power to keep it that way. So if you do choose to let him come, they won't simply just side with him and ignore what you are feeling. If they are a good psychiatrist, the understand your disorder more than your husband does. Though your husband cares and wants you to be okay, only you and your psychiatrist can figure out a solution to make you happy. And yes, it is much deeper than something Xanax can fix. Xanax can help, but won't fix the issue. Only you can fix your issues. The psychiatrist is just experienced in guiding you to solutions that may help.
If your husband does go, maybe the psychiatrist will help him understand that what you feel and what think isn't something that can simply be reversed by Xanax. Also, you might feel more comfortable in saying that you feel you should be in a hospital while at the psychiatrist. That way, there will at least be one person there that will listen to you and give you good input. Your not alone in feeling that you want to be in a hospital. I've had that thought many times. And I too was scared to tell anyone. I finally told my old therapist (I am no longer in treatment) and she and I talked it out. It made me feel better to know that it's not just a "crazy" thought of mine and that someone at least could understand a little bit and help me through those feelings. I didn't go to a hospital. I'm glad I didn't. But I don't think those who go are crazy or screwed up. I mean, for some people it doesn't help at all... for others it saves their life.
Don't be afraid to tell anyone what you think. Especially a psychiatrist. They have heard it all. They wont blow you off or think your totally out of your mind. They will help you make a good decision for yourself.
Good Luck.
2007-12-10 14:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deshane, It might be a good idea to let him. Maybe with the three of you you can get to the root of your problems. If nothing else he'll find out that you do have problems and he can find a way to help you. Even if it's in the house to help take the pressure off of you. If you really feel you need to go to hospital than go by all means. At least there they can keep an eye on you and be able to either change your meds, increase them if need be. Or just change them. Remember you're in charge of your own life, do what you must.
2007-12-10 14:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're having such a tough time sweetheart. I think it might be beneficial for your' psychiatrist to see your' husband with you, it will give him a more balanced view of what support you are getting/not getting from him. You can't let your' husband dictate what type of medical care you need. That is for you and your' doctors to decide. If you feel you need to go to hospital, then make sure your' husband doesn't undermine your' feelings. Please don't be afraid to tell your psychiatrist how you feel about hospital, he can't help you fully unless he knows how you feel. Don't be intimidated by your' husband, speak up for yourself. Good luck.xx
2007-12-10 14:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he should go...but that for the first part of the session you need to be with you Dr. alone. You need to express how you feel w/o the pressure of your husband being there.
You should come to a plan of treatment with your Dr. and then call your husband in so that the Dr. can explain how he has assessed your condition and what the plan will be.
Your Dr. will have experience with working with family members in these situations and can explain it to your husband in a way that will help him to understand the gravity of the situation.
2007-12-10 16:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 You do need to be able to access your Dr. privately when you feel the need to communicate something as serious as going into the hospital.
#2 Your husband needs to "get a clue" and a "good dose of reality" -- for him to sit-in on atleast half your appointment would definitely be benefitial to both of you.
#3 Most husbands are unwilling to speak with the Dr. - don't miss this opportunity for him to get some education
2007-12-10 15:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from personal experience that if you feel you need to go to the hospital, then you should go. You need to have your full health and if you feel like you are not coping then you need to seek help. I was in the Crisis Center back in April, and no one understood, but I had too. I was suicidal and felt like no one cared. If you feel as though you need to do it then do it. Only you know how you feel and others will never know unless they are bi-polar too.
2007-12-11 15:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him at home. A person's mental health matters are very personal! Drugs are not always the answer, contrary to what the drug industry tries to tell us in their rotten campaign of commercials. There is probably something that is bringing out these negative feelings, and sometimes it can be a spouse who is the real source!
2007-12-10 17:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by YahooAnswers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my husband with me for my second visit at the Docs request and it worked out great, we had 10 minutes together and then hubby for 40 mins and then me for the remanding time, it really did help hubby understand more what was wrong with me.
He was ok before but now really helpful and caring about it.
Good luck hun.
2007-12-10 15:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by papy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think taking him would be a good idea, as he will understand what your going through. Not many husbands want to know and ignore the situation... your a lucky girl, having someone backing you up!!
2007-12-10 14:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by saika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋