i am getting married in april and i am in love with my fience he is the most wonderful man in the world. My parents are NOT against it and i was just wondering if you think i am to young?
2007-12-10 06:03:34 · 75 answers · asked by mandie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I got married when I was 16 years old. I love my husband very much. You are not young. If you love this guy and he loves you, marry him. But a marriage will not work if you do not have God in your lives. Best of luck and God bless you!
2007-12-10 06:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by .:♥Stepherz♥:. 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations !
Depending in what state or country do you live, you might or might not be too young. Seems like you are worried about what other people might say. If you feel mature enough for all the responsibility that marriage brings...then you are ready for marriage. I think both your and your Fiance have been taking pre-marital counselling through your church ...and have discussed about finance ..where are you going to live, what does each expect from the other etc. Whether you will continue on to college, work ? ...etc.etc.
I am happy for you. I would say go get educated first before starting a family.
Nonetheless, I would advice you to wait a little bit before you start a family. Enjoy each other company as a newlywed couple...get to enjoy some of the little things that a couple does...I would wait at least three to four years. Once the children come, you won't have time to enjoy with your husband as a couple because you will be busy and tired with the kid(s) ... when you are a little older in early twenties, you will feel more ready and your husband will be ready too to share your time being together and with the baby(ies) ...
And Stop Worrying about what other might say. What do you feel in your heart ? and what does your reasoning tells you...? Only you know the answer.
2007-12-10 06:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 18 is too young. Sorry......but I too married at 18 and thought I was in love. You change over the years. You might make it and stay with him....or you might outgrow him and realise all the things you missed out on by marrying at such a young age.
Like travel and independance, even dating and going out.
I married the guy I had been dating since I was 16. I thought I was in love. He was older than me and controlling. I got to 30 and realised I had never been on a real date, not done any of the stuff I wanted to and I had outgrown him.
You still have sooo much growing and changing to do as a person at the age of 18. I know you feel like and adult and that you have lived etc....I felt the same. But as you get older you realise there is so much more to life.
Good luck whatever you decide.
2007-12-10 08:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know you but I know that if I had gotten married at 18, I would have been too young and it would have been a disaster. Everything about you changes: how you view the world, your finanical responsibilites, and what you want for your life. I find the person I am today, at 28 to be a totally different person than what I was when I was 18 and I think you will too. People change a lot, hopefully you and your fiance will make it through the changes together. Best of luck.
2007-12-10 06:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Legally? You're not too young.
Logically? You have so much left to experience before getting married. Enjoy your youth. Experience college. You guys can still get married after you both finish college. If he's as wonderful as you say, then he will understand this as well. And you'll have a much greater chance of better jobs, you'll be more mature, and have a better chance of making it work.
Additionally: I certainly don't know you, but the more I think about your question, the more concern I feel. Do you feel like the two of you are ready to accept the responsibility of living on the income you guys have right now? Unfortunately, it will not get much better without continuing your education.
Are you ready to raise children and support them unconditionally? Even with birth control, there are still surprises born every day. Are you financially stable enough to deal with the added expenses of living on one income, or to pay for child care in a few months? Do both of you have marketable skills that can provide for a place to live, vehicle, clothes, food, utility, etc. Being an adult is expensive. You have to make sure you are ready.
I can totally understand being in love. Yet, it takes some self discipline to have found the right person that you want to marry and being able to wait until you are able to handle marriage. Love is the most important, but you can't live on love alone. I've seen so many young people struggle through college as married couples, and have to resort to living in a dump with horrible furniture because that's all they could handle.
However, you have a choice and can choose to wait and marry when the time is better. It doesn't mean you don't love your fiance. It just means you have the ability to see down the road and realize that you need to get things more under control.
And one thing you might want to realize. It's common knowledge that a male's brain does not fully mature until he is 25 years old. That the primary reason their car insurance rates are so expensive until that "magic age." If your fiance is close to you in age, please give him so time to grow and become the man that he can be, without being burdened down with a family.
I'll share some advice my dad gave me when I was your age. "Go to college and make sure you are able to support yourself. To many things can happen and you might someday be forced to take care of yourself and possibly children. You don't want to end up having to live in poverty because you didn't take the time to get an education." Very wise man that I miss terribly!
2007-12-10 06:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Woods 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does it matter what we - people you don't even know - think? Sounds like you've already made your decision. I don't think anybody on here can tell you if you're ready or not. It depends on a lot of things. It's good that you have your families support. Nobody can know how mature either of you are or what your idea of marriage is. I will say this though, by getting married at 18 you're probably going to miss out on a lot of things your friends are going to get to experience. I think it's a good idea to live on your own for awhile, get use to paying your own bills and dealing with everyday occurances.... dead car batteries, locking yourself out of your house, etc....In the end I think they make you a stronger person and more ready to deal with a marriage. But, if you're ready and that's what you want, I wish you happiness! Congrats!
2007-12-10 06:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Katie T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love and mature enough to handle marriage then I say go for it! Just because somebody gets married at a young age doesn't mean it will end in divorce...some people get married in their 30's or 40's and get divorced. I've heard stories of people getting married as young as 16 and they have a happy, loving marriage that lasts forever! It just depends on the people, not their age.
Congratulations!!
2007-12-10 06:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't speak for you as I do not know how mature you are, how much education you have, and how you are doing financially.
At eighteen, I thought I was ready to get married. But since we had no money to get married back then, I decided to wait another year. Would you believe, with that year, Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Can't Keep His Pants On! At eighteen, I was so naive! Geeesh! I caught him with another girl.....an old High School rival!
Now, that being said....I finally got married at 29! Yup! 29, girlfriend! I finished college, got a good job, had money in the bank, moved out on my own...and also, 2 more Mr. Wrongs came passing through my life before I finally KNEW FOR SURE that I have MR. Right!
Do the right thing for yourself. If there's any doubt in your mind (like you asking this question on Yahoo Answers) ....it's probably worth listening to. Coz no one else knows you as well as YOU do!
2007-12-10 06:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by blessings_times_three 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not have wanted to get married at 18 but if it is what you want to do and there is nothing you ever wanted to do without having someone else with you then go ahead and get married. I personally in my own opinion would not get married for at least 7 more years if I were you.
2007-12-10 06:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Joey R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think that u are ready for it, then you aren't. But, I got married about 18..and I am still married to the same person. But I gotta admit that you both have to have some tuff skin because sometimes there were problems. I think that you asking this question says that you aren't ready and too young. Maybe you should just reconsider. I am sure you are in love, but you may not be mature enough to handle what is coming to you.
2007-12-10 06:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Samster 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋