At a party this past week end, a friend of mine called a girl up so he could ask her out. When she got there and met him, she quickly started to go after me. I told her that "im just here for the drinks", but she still didnt leave me alone. Well he's pissed, and I really didnt do any thing with her (but he dosent belive me) and he thinks i "stole" her from him.
does that make me a bad friend? what should I do?
2007-12-10 05:55:41 · 23 answers · asked by Crimson 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you didn't do anything with her or anything wrong. As long as you stay away from her then you are fine.
2007-12-10 05:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not in any way shape or form. If your friend can't get over the fact that this girl is no ones property especially not his than he is the one with the problem. And if that is the case that he doesn't trust you then you need to ask yourself...This is suppose to be your friend and he doesn't trust you then you need to really consider if he is a true friend to you? I would think not. I have one best friend we have been friends for 33 years and she would never have treated me in this way or form...no matter what. I suggest you find true friends who love you unconditionally...not ones that expect things from you...this too me is not a true friendship. attraction is key. if she was not attracted to him, they are reasons why she was to you...enjoy your new founded relationship. You never know she could be your soul mate....take care and may god bless you...and if your friend is jealous of you? Is he an honest and true friend? Not in my book. Carry on...indeed. You are a wonderful friend and don't let anyone tell you otherwise...
2007-12-10 14:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by pebbles2474 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it does not unless you did something sneaky ...life just happens to us and if he cant accept that then he is the one that isnt a good friend and you need to tell this girl she is messed up when he called her and she ignored him....maybe she did like you but it was wrong for her to not talk to him first and let him know how she felt THEN she could have gone to you and he just has to understand that things like this happen...so again NO you arent the bad friend he is for gettin pissed over something you didnt have any control over but if he is a good one then he will get over it and yall can work this out...i wish you all the best
2007-12-10 14:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by vkatgol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havn't done anything, than he cannot be mad at you, and you are not a bad friend, I personally think, your so called friend is being really immature.
Talk to your buddy about this, make him understand that you've done nothing to make this girl want you, if he's a good friend of yours, he should believe you, and if he doesn't, I would be questioning his trust level. Aren't friends supposed to be able to trust each other?
2007-12-10 14:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by kills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be a bad friend when you were trying to discourage her?
It's natural (unfortunately) for him to take it out on you, but he is in the wrong for blaming you for HER lack of interest in him, and pursuit of you.
All you can do is wait it out. At some point, if he isn't a total jerk, he'll realize that she just wasn't interested in him (unless she was trying to make him jealous -- which makes her bad news).
You might try one more time to explain you were trying to discourage her.
Then leave him to come around on his own.
It's hard for people to accept that someone they're attracted to isn't interested, and they look for explanations and blame.
Not your fault.
2007-12-10 14:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and sit down with him 4 a few minutes and explain! If he doesnt believe you, then HE is the bad friend!
2007-12-10 13:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by <3 x Soph x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you didn't do anything then no ur not a bad friend, give him time and he will realize you were being a friend and didn't steal the girl he liked. Right now he's upset and his pride is hurt! Give him time, he'll come around
2007-12-10 13:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never encouraged her, and in fact, tried to dissuade her from pursuing you, you are not to blame. You are not a bad friend. Your friend is hurt because the girl he's interested in does not feel the same for him.
2007-12-10 14:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong and it's not up to you to fix things.
Your friend needs to understand that women aren't possessions that can be stolen.
If you like you could remind him that women choose who they are attracted to.
2007-12-10 14:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is just human nature he will figure that out hell what would make you a bad freind is if you dated her so basicly she is off limits to you
2007-12-10 14:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. You were just the most convenient person to take his frustrations out on because she rejected him.
2007-12-10 14:01:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋