I'm friends with this guy who always asks me for relationship advice and right now he wants to go out with some girl I dislike. But he's not really sure he wants to go out with her and constantly asks me reasons for why he shouldn't go out with him. I don't have a real reason apart from I like him myself. He sends me sweet goodnight texts sometimes and always wants to hang out with me at school and out of school. We're really good friends, but he forgets that I'm female and that I'm two years younger then him at times, so that's a bit annoying, but he says its because I'm his good friend.
When my other friends make comments about him and me obviously supposed to be go out, ie today he guessed what colour my underwear was and my friend said he wants to see them, he said "I don't plan on seeing them ever."
So sometimes I think ah he must like me, but then other times I think well he obviously just sees me as a little sister type friend. (but then he forgets my age?) Any ideas?
2007-12-10 05:41:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-10 05:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by CHRISTOPHER P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know this is not what you may want to hear but he may like you a little but not enough to risk a friendship. I had a really good guy friend in highschool he was my right arm man and we too would joke around with things but at times it was more like flurting we would even talk on the phone all the time and send goodnight messages and say love you to each other but it was just a deep friendship kind of love and now looking back I wouldn't have done anything different to maybe lose him as a friend. i have been married now for 7 years(since I was17 now I am 24) and we still talk and hang out and at time there is a connection but it really isn't a true love like when you love a partner he has a girlfriend that at times she doesn't understand our friendship. But then on the other hand your guy friend could be remembering your age and just waiting for you to get older b/c people do change as they get older. Sometimes you have to weigh what you love about your friendship and if something would happen would it be worth losing. Good luck honey being young is a hard job and when you start mixing feelings in it life just gets even harder.
2007-12-10 13:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by danceshorty04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the way I see it is he likes you for sure, but maybe not the way you are thinking. He obviously values your opinion, but as far as I can tell you feelings may not be mutual. If he likes this other girl, and you like him, maybe you should say something before it's too late.
I once had a crush on a friend, but I never told her. Then, one day she told me she was moving away with her father. It was at that point that I impulsively told her how I felt, But it was too late for anything to happen. As it turned out, she had a crush on me as well. I now keep in touch with her through daily emails, but I still wounder what would have happened if I had gotten the nerves to tell her when we still had time.
I guess the moral of the story is, you never know till you try, 'cause just like women, men are confusing.
2007-12-10 13:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by TidusJames 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give it time... when you get older, 2 years isn't much of an age gap, but right now it sounds like it is. Right now he sees you as his kid sister, and that probably won't change for a while. He may flirt with you and think it is innocent fun and nothing more. For now try and date boys your own age! And if you think he will be happy with this girl even though you don't like her, who are you to deny your friends happiness?
2007-12-10 13:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by moxie_k64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you let it get to the point where you are friends, it will usually stay that way until one of you makes some kind of drastic move like if you kissed hin or something. Once you've been categorized into the friends zone, its already clear that you arent a target for a relationship but more of a good friend type deal. So if you want my answer, its that he probably doesnt like you the way you might hope, but if you really like him you still might have a chance if you move slowly towards the relationship end of the spectrum
2007-12-10 13:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by ThatNJguy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is difficult, especially since you didn't mention your/his age. I'm a bit older and I tend to think if they like me then they should tell me so! or they should ask me out. In my experience, no body is too shy or too this or too that to ask out a girl they like. So, don't daydream. If he wants to date you he will ask you. If you are dating or if someone else asks you out, I would give them a chance but your friend does not have to know. Just take it as it comes, that way you won't have any regrets. Best wishes.
2007-12-10 13:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you tell him you like him? I understand that the possibility of loosing him as a friend comes up. But if he's a true friend he won't be pushed away by such a statement.
I personally think it sounds like he's leading you on for his own boost of ego. You probably make him feel good on some level.
Be honest with him. That's the best way to get rid of someone who's playing with your emotions. It's also the best way to gain a boyfriend if he does like you.
2007-12-10 13:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley E 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
IT SOUNDS TO ME THAT HE REALLY DOESNT NO WHAT HE WANTS . I HAD THE SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME . SO I NO WHERE YOURE COMMING FROM . I THINK IN HIS HEART HE LIKES YOU BOTH WAYS . A FRIEND AND A GIRLFRIEND . JUST GIVE HIM A LITTLE TIME . IHOW DOES HE ACT WHEN YOU DATE OTHER MEN ? BUT ILL TELL YOU SOMETHING . IF YOU TWO ARE THAT CLOSE . YOU MIGHT WANT TO THINK ABOUT THE DATING THING . BECAUSE ME AND THIS PERSON WAS SO CLOSE . AND I SEEN HIM AS A BIG BROTHER A LOVER A BESTFRIEND EVERYTHING . SO WE THOUGHT WHY NOT GIVE IT A TRY . WE BOTH FELT THE SAME ABOUT EACH OTER SO WHY NOT ? WELL NEEDLESS TO SAY WE DONT SPEEK ANY MORE .AND IT BRAKES MY HEART THAT I LOST MY BEST FRIEND . SO JUST THINK REALLY HARD DO YOU WANT TO TAKE THAT CHANCE IN LOSING YOUR BEST FRIEND ? GOOD LUCK
2007-12-10 14:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have the same thing with my friend, yet i have told my friend. Its probably not that he doesnt like you, its that you two are such good friends that if you dated and things didnt work out, you wouldnt have the same relationship as you did before. give it time, and let him mature a little bit, and soon he may see you as more, but make sure that he doesnt thing that you like him, and tell your friends to stop with the comments, it might make him uncofortable and then he will feel akward anf wont ever see you as the dating type. good luck! :)
2007-12-10 13:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he really likes you, he will tell you. If he doesn't tell you, it's because there is nothing to tell. Sounds like you are in the friend zone. Be happy to stay there and get out there and date other people. If he likes you even a little, seeing you with another guy will bring it out of him. Visit http://becomeasavvygirl.blogspot.com
2007-12-10 13:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by savvy_girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you guys are just friends. Keep it that way. Who knows, you may end up both liking each other the same way in the future?
2007-12-10 13:44:40 · answer #11 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋