Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now and we are sexually active…we have unprotected sex and I’m not on the pill, yet we are being very risky with the pull out method, because he does not like to use condoms…we are both healthy (as far as diseases are concerned) I am so into him and he is the same into me…I am a college student trying to finish school, and lately I have been noticing that when we have sex my boyfriend ejaculates inside of me and is always saying that he didn’t mean to…and that he is not ready for a child…but when we are love making he screams out (I’m about to give you my babies!, as he climaxes) lol…also when I mention to him what would he do if I was to get pregnant he always states that he will man up and take care of his responsibility and that he is the family man type of guy…yet he is constantly saying he is not trying to get me pregnant…I told him that I am not ready for that, and that I wanted to have kids after marriage and once I was graduated from college and financially established…he is a very devoted guy, and use to being long term in relationships…hes young and his longest relationship has been 5 years…I know if I were to go that route with him, a child would not be an issue as far as him being a good daddy…but is this what hes trying to do…get me pregnant? Even though he says hes not, because if so I cannot be with a man that doesn’t respect my wishes and ambitions in life
2007-12-10 05:22:16 · 14 answers · asked by girliegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to wear condom or u dont have unprotected sex with him.I think maybe he love to ejaculates inside u?
but my advice is have protected sex.
2007-12-10 05:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by David T 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before you have sex with him again, let him know that you want to do it the safe way because you want to be financially secured before you start a family. Explain to him your worries and tell him that getting you pregnant can put your education on hold and your education is really important. If you ask him about him wanting to become a dad and he says no, use the evidence you got to back up your case.. Tell him why he screams like that and why he 'accidentally' ejaculates when doing it with you. It's best you sit down with him and talk and before you guys will do it again, either one of you have to use protection. So you on the pill or he uses a condom. But both may not be as effective as they seem. But you gotta do what you gotta do.
2007-12-10 05:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me for saying, but you're both idiots if no form of bc is being used yet you claim neither of you wants a child. I'd think, as a college educated person, you'd have more brains than that dear.
Either get your azz on some form of b/c, insist he wear a condom, or accept the fact that even using the pull-out method (which is extremely unreliable) chances are you will be 'with child' before long. You're as guilty as he is for not taking any more precautions than hoping he'll climax outside you (and forgetting that sperm are in pre-ejaculate also, so it doesn't take him climaxing inside you for you to become pregnant).
There are MANY forms of birth control...see your doctor asap about getting on something or you'll have NO room to gripe when you come up pregnant...apparently, you don't really mind the idea or you'd be doing something (more) to prevent it. *rolls eyes and shakes head*
2007-12-10 05:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to stop. Just because you took a test a couple months ago does not mean you are both healthy. Never take faithfullness for granted. Someone could think they love you will all their heart and still cheat on you. (Look at Halle Berry, C'mon!).
As for getting you pregnant...no thats not what he's trying to do. He's being a man and trying to get his, thats all it is. You need to be proactive and take care of yourself (because no one else will) and get on the pill and I'd recommend making him wear a condom as well to be sure. If he loves you all that "it doesn't feel right" crap shouldn't even be in the realm of the conversation.
Think about yourself and what you want to accomplish at this point in you life....a baby (or STD) will **** that up in a hot second.
2007-12-10 05:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ali VDS United 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the pull out method isn't working (it is too risky to just rely on that anyway) then you have two options. Either he wears a condom or you get on birth control. If you can't do either of these..then stop having sex. One of you needs to do the adult thing and take care of the protection. It should really be a joint effort but if you do not trust him to do it, you need to take the initiative and just get on birth control.
He may not be trying to get you pregnant, he just might not be able to control himself.
No matter what is going on, if you are going to have a sexually qactive relationship, until you sort out the problems, use some type of protection.
2007-12-10 05:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that both of you need to act like responsible adults and use protection if you don't want to get pregnant. I mean I hear you saying you don't want to get pregnant yet you two don't use protection and you aren't on the pill. And I'll have you know that the "pull out" technique does nothing since sperm prematurely escapes before ejaculation.
To put it simply, use some form of protection if you don't want to get pregnant because right now it seems that neither one of you is taking the issue seriously!
And to answer the question: I don't think he is trying to get you pregnant even though it does seem like he is.... he's just being as irresponsible as you...
2007-12-10 05:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by KasaiB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember - it takes two!!! So you need to be responsible too. If he doesn't like to use condoms, then use a diaphragm, IUD, pill, nuvaring, depo-provera, etc- trust me, it is difficult to finish college when you have a baby, took me 10 years! I don't think he is trying to get you pregnant, probably just likes the feeling without a condom, but you need to step up and take control because things can get out of hand fast!!!
2007-12-10 05:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like YOU are trying to get yourself pregnant. Otherwise you'd be on birth control, which is widely available and very cheap (sometimes free) for college kids. Having a child would throw a huge wrench into your plans. It's not fair for you or the child that would not be planned. Get some bc!
2007-12-10 05:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to have children, you need to take this in your own hands. Get on the pills or don't have sex with him till he agrees to wear protection. Sounds like you guys are really being careless, and if you keep this up you will end up pregnant.
2007-12-10 05:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by tarie75 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pull out is not a safe practice.
Where did you hear that?
Semen is flowing well before full ejaculation. Those buggers are great swimmers and they don't need much help. Nothing gets in their way.
2007-12-10 05:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by ed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋