My girlfriend acts like a baby?

Question

Hi,
my gf is 24 years old and well the way she acts is like a baby. For example, her parents always cook her food and when they finish they call her to eat. And if she doesn't like the food she'll be like pissed at them for not cooking the right food.
What are the ways that I can do to make her do influence to realized that she's an adult now. by the way. Her parents have been treating her like a baby and well I don't want to feel like i have a baby girlfriend. How would I help her to grow up ? Thanks

Answer 1

maybe you are just being picky.....

you might want to share your feelings about this subject with her and maybe the two of you can work the issue out.

I think this might just be how she is raised and part of her personality and I don't think you can change that.

you might also want to think about why you want her as your girlfriend.....because if you don't like who she is then it is not fair to even be in the relationship.

Answer 2

Honestly, you can do your best to help her realize this but you cannot change a person no matter what you do. She will always be a spoiled baby and a brat. If she is 24 and still lives at home, she probably has no desire to get out on her own. She will want you to treat her the same way. You are too mature for that, try all you want but dont hold your breath!

Answer 3

If she's 24 and acting like that, she wont change. If you're starting a relationship, already trying to change her, give it up now. Or even if you have been together for a while, and the way she acts, bothers you,she WONT change, and will expect you to baby her too. If you cant except her the way she is, get out now. The longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it will be to break up. Probably. Or maybe you will just get sick of her behavior and it will be easier. Either way, it wont work out. Sorry, thats probably not what you wanted to hear, but that is what my experience tells me. Good luck!

Answer 4

Hi, the best way to help her is to behave like an adult with her, and not like a parent. This is easier said than done, because people who behave in a childlike manner like your girlfriend will automatically prod others to respond in a parental fashion, unless they are aware of the psychological dynamics.

A really good book to read to get a grip of how to deal with this kind of problem is:

The Games People Play by Eric Berne.

One thing you can try in the meantime is to give her straightforward feedback when you experience her behaving like a child. As usual, I blame the parents for spoiling her and not teaching her that she can't always get her own way. Good luck!

Answer 5

She wont grow up until she has the chance for self growth. Her parents should really recoginize this as well and stop acting upon their daughters selfish requests.

But my suggestion would be to talk to her, tell her you wish she would learn to be a little more mature. Definetly do not feed into any babying....that will just make it worse on your part. Some people just don't grow up until they are faced with living on their own and depending on themselves....so in this case i am not sure how much you can do. It is really up to her parents to let her discover independance.

Good luck!

Answer 6

She is spoiled. There is no fix for this unless she recognizes the problem as a problem and wants to fix it. Most don't. A relationship with a person like this will be the way it is between her and her parents. Such people are totally unreasonable.

Your choice to continue or not. I trust you find something redeeming in her as well. Decide if she is worth the enormous expenditure of time and emotion it will take.

Merry Christmas!

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Answer 7

I would try and get her away from the situations you feel are making her act childish. Take her out to eat more often. Let her see how adults behave. Tell her to have more respect for her parent's. When I was 24 I was earning and paying board I then moved out and rented a flat which gave me great independence. Otherwise dump her and get an older woman!

Answer 8

Tell her to start acting like her age, 24 is still very young, but old enough to know better. If things don't change , find someone that's on your' level and mature enough to know how to treat and take care of a man, and on the flip side, you should do the same for her by giving her the respect she deserves, trust me.... you will be a happier person!

Answer 9

This is a tough one. The patterns of behavior tyou describe sound disfinctional. The best thing for you to do is to help her see the unheathy nature of the interactions between them and patiently educate her . Nagging will not get you anywhere and often I have found that these kinds of relationships often thrive on the disfuntion. I suggest you get some research done on these kinds of relationships and share them with her. Her parents are hindering her from maturing by allowing this kind of behavior. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Then her parents should continue to treat her like a baby, why go halfway?

Babies don't have sex, don't get to go out unsupervised either. They get car seats and strollers and a diaper and pacifier. Oh, and they also have changing times and nap times and snack time and burping time, and get fed in high chairs and arranged play dates with other babies.

Actually, that doesn't sound too bad compared to the responsibilities of an adult.

Answer 11

Wow. If she is interested in the long term with you, she will heed the following advice. Hint about the type of woman you'd love to spend the rest of your life with. One that will (you don't sound like you're expecting much so I'll make this really easy for her:) help with chores, cook dinner with you for a family, take care of her own messes, etc. If you life together, try getting a small animal to snap her out of it. It worked with my ten year old! You seem to really care about her. If she's what you're looking for, hang in there, but she could also make a funny date story for the future girl of your dreams.