I hear from people all the time telling me im wrong for living with my guy before we are married.
We have a lot of friends that lived together first and then got married. I think it is pretty common now.
Who the negativity and judgment?
2007-12-10 05:11:10 · 16 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you guys....makes me feel much better.
2007-12-10 05:20:23 · update #1
People love to give their opinions, (just like I am right now) and people love to criticize. It makes them feel good about themselves. Just do what feels right for you and who cares about anyone else. Really. They can tend their own gardens. You worry about yours. And by the way, unless you have a religion that you are going against by living together, then I think it is a smart thing to do. You do not know a person until you live with them and especially if you plan on marrying the guy. What a shock to get married before you live with him and then find out that you are incompatible.
2007-12-10 05:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Floppity♥ 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I lived with mine 7 months before marriage then this last guy 27 years and never married.
Living together is much different than marriage. I live in a community property state so refused to marry again. Why buy the bull when you can get the service for free?
2014-01-05 19:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am engaged to be married to a Catholic Italian man and his mother was 1,000% against us living together prior to our marriage. However, we have been living together now for 3 years. My honest opinion on this is that it is a personal choice. We felt that it was best for us to live together before marriage to ensure that we were able to deal with each others habits etc. Some people believe that living together prior to marriage is a sin. My own parents were very supportive. They agree with us and felt it is the best way/time to work out any minor issues you may have prior to the marriage. Living together is one less thing that you have to stress about after the marriage. The only negative to it, that I can see with our relationship, is that after the wedding nothing will really have "changed" ... we'll go back to our normal lives with only a piece of paper and two rings showing the difference in our relationship.
2007-12-10 05:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you the truth, if you put yourself in a position to sin it will increase your chances of sinning in the first place. The more you play around with it, the harder it will be to resist the sin nature. The more you feed it, the stronger it grows. The fact that you're asking if it's ok should send you a signal... "IT'S PROBABLY NOT OK!!!" If you really love each other and are meant for each other and care about doing things Biblically then do what God is telling you to do. You're either meant for each other or not. Figure that out. If it's meant to be, then just get married. This waiting stuff is only going to kill you. If you pretend to be married, you might as well just get married. You're only going to put more stress on yourselves when you move in together, married or not... so you might as well go all the way. Trust me, I've only been married 5 months and I wish I could have married my wife sooner. The only reason why we had to wait was because of school. She just graduated last year. Another piece of advice, if you're not ready for marriage then don't bother with a GF/BF. It makes no sense. If you're BF-GF, you really should count yourself as married. Don't put the cart before the horse. Get married then move in together. From what it sounds like, you two just need to tie "the knot". It's that or you'll have to tie a knot in "it". Your choice.
2016-05-22 12:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by carolann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 22 and have lived with my fiance for a year and a half, Honey, would you buy a car without test driving it? NO!! So, living with a guy before marriage is a GREAT thing, you can see what irritates each other and try to fix it before you commit to marriage. See what married life will be like with both people paying bills, doing laundry, grocery shopping, etc. Tell everyone else to mind thier own business! You are 100% correct!
2007-12-10 05:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by katie-bug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lived together 2 years before marriage. Been married 16 years now. Best move for me, anyway.
You do what works for you. Ask the naysayers why their way is better considering the divorce rate in the US is around 50%.
2007-12-10 05:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jesse R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean why the negativity.
I personally think living together before marriage is the only way to go. There is no better way to get to know a person then to live with them.
2007-12-10 05:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on beliefs and upbringing. Living together before marriage has often been frowned upon because it usually meant sex before marriage. Alot of reltionships like this also have lead to dependency on the part of one person or the other. Personally I have lived with someone before marriage and if I had it to do all over again I wouldn't do it until I have a date set and we were on our way to the altar.
2007-12-10 05:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am planning on moving in with my boyfriend once we are engaged and have purchased a house together. I lived with a guy once before and after that I decided that I wouldn't do it again without being engaged first. I have known too many couples who moved in together and then never moved forward with their relationship, usually because the guy was happy with the status quo.
2007-12-10 05:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We lived together for three years before we got married (and before he proposed) and we have been married for 20+ years
2007-12-10 05:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Gur8 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋