2007-12-10 05:05:09 · 19 answers · asked by Pisces1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Depends on where we are in our lives. Are we still in college? Are we established in our careers?
I say, if you feel the relationship is still progressing, and your happy, why ruin it because of some time line. However, if you feel he's dragging his feet, then make a date that you want to be engaged by- but once you do this, there is absolutely no going back.
Whatever you do, don't give him an ultimatum! These NEVER turn out well.
2007-12-10 05:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As long as i feel we both love eachother and will one day. When i start to feel that it isnt right then thats it i stop waiting. My guy and i have been together for 3 years and i think we will get married some day but im in no rush, we are just now really starting to talk about moving in together in a year and we have talked about getting married but not for a few more years. Because we have talked about it thats why i dont care when it happens cause i know it will, and thats when it doesnt feel like waiting. Im not waiting im happy so go with it.
2007-12-10 07:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by ckatz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were together two years when we decided to build a house. Our house built we moved in. All along he said he wanted to marry me.
After 3 and a half years together, I decided to tell him it was time to put his money where his mouth is, so to speak.
Despite all his promises, no proposal yet, so we talked about it.
I then had to wait until our 4 year anniversary, and then he
proposed and I now have a ring and a wedding in less than 7 months. Yay.
I am glad I hung in there, although there were times when I wondered if he would ever get to it. I knew he wanted to be with me, just wasnt sure if he saw the point in the marriage thing. Apparently he does. :-)
2007-12-10 08:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited for 7 years. But I know that we were meant to be together, and we both wanted to wait for different things to happened first, and when they did, we got married!! If they are the right person for you then you should wait, and if they are not the right person for you then don't wait.
2007-12-10 06:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and where you want to go in life.
If you are 35 and don't have a house and want children, then you are not going to want to wait 5 years. If you are 21 and not out of college yet, then 5 years is not unreasonable.
It is ok to tell a guy you want him to make up his mind about things, and give him 6 months. It is an ultimatum of sorts, but it is your life as well as his, and if you want to get on with it, and you want him in your life, you have to know if it is going to happen or not.
You might want to find another man, or wait forever for a certain guy to make up his mind whether he wants you or not.
2007-12-10 06:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. If you're both very young or still students, I think a long dating persion is really ideal, but once you're in your late 20's and beyond, a person should know within 2 years if they want to spend their lives with the partner.
2007-12-10 06:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If I was truely in love with him and I knew without a doubt that he was the one I was supposed to marry!!!
AS LONG AS I HAD TO!!!!!
i would wait forever!!!!
2007-12-10 07:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Around 2 yrs there should be jewelry, then be engaged for a year or 2 to get things planned and life together organized.....so all together 4 yrs at the very most!
2007-12-10 06:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
3-4 years.....UNLESS, you are both students, you can't afford it, etc etc.
The excuse of "Oh, well I'm just not sure yet...." That don't fly with me. If you don't know after 3 years if you want to marry them, then you're just wasting your life waiting on someone who may never grow up.
Good luck
-kiki
ADD: I like how everyone is saying 3 years and you're giving everyone a thumbs down for it....your bf and you've been dating longer than 3 years, I take it?
2007-12-10 05:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
A proposal or at least ring shopping before the 3 yr mark. 3 yr maximum. I would know after a year or two if this person was right for me to marry, or just fun for a relationship. If he doesnt know after 2 or 3 years, thats a clear sign its not right for him and I would want to move on.
2007-12-10 05:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋