2007-12-10 05:04:05 · 10 answers · asked by kiki 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What a question!
A good wife - regardless of all unique or individual nuances which naturally generate differences - is a woman who basically gives me the benefit of the doubt in most circumstances. The hope is that she would then be willing - sincerely willing - to negotiate with me most decisions fairly and with a truly open mind toward our respective differences in perspective, feeling, gender and so forth. What is impossible to endure is a wife who looks down on me again and again and already assumes that she knows better than me about practically everything. A good wife really listens to the opinions, perspectives, feelings, motivations, desires of her husband, while also cultivating the gift of learning to communicate well her own perspectives on as many issues as she can. The idea is to negotiate with open hearts when an impasse or disagreement has been reached. The mind has to know how to return to a balanced, neutral, but lively place so that he is reassured that he can state his views without meeting with scorn; without derision and without condescension.
So a good wife is also a wife who sincerely wants to develop herself and wants to share in the tough decisions and challenges but in a fair and reasonable manner. Otherwise the strife is too injurious and too exhausting. It is really important for her to make her feelings and desires known as early as possible. Any attempt to manipulate and micro-control the husband only leads to strife and a fundamental lack of trust. To me a good wife is a best friend first. A best friend values trust above all else. And everything else can be built on trust. You cannot be truthful and you cannot build a full relationship if the basis of trust has been lost. So a good wife has to see the man as early as possible for what he really is. She cannot decide in her mind that he his something that he is not for her own convenience. Self-deception only leads to heart-ache and failure. It creates a prison of misunderstanding.
A good wife for me is a wife who is interested enough in me to want to listen to what I am. It helps if she enjoys what I am. And of course it also works in reverse. Given that nobody can enjoy everything about another person, a real sense of humor can make a big difference. Maybe a good wife is a friend who can let a lot things roll off her back instead of ingesting each and every barb until she is enflamed with resentment or feelings of intolerable disappointment.
I am delighted if a wife is passionate and full of conviction. But if that passion and conviction causes her to assume that she is superior to me in every way and at heart really does not regard my views, insights and perspectives seriously, then the marriage cannot develop, let alone flourish.
I find your question to be incredibly relevant and goes to the marrow of my life. I could go on for pages but I think I've stated the essence of what concerns me. Love is mysterious and you cannot demand that anyone love you. But open-mindedness is a practical art and discipline that everybody can practice. It helps if you trust the other person. The dream is that a good wife will trust the process of making tough decisions and not condemn you outright if a mistake is made.
Thanks for putting your question out there.
2007-12-10 05:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
A good wife is somebody who supports her life partner - spiritually. She does not try to create more problems but alleviates current ones. A good wife is comforting and understanding of the other's needs and wants.
She is able to provide space if her partner needs it yet not afraid to work out resolutions to issues and misunderstandings.
2007-12-10 05:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by M. McFly 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
A wife that can make me breakfast in the morning,
Laugh at my stupid jokes,
Love me til the end.
To me, its the little things that make up a good wife.
2007-12-10 11:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by one.n.only 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Only one man puts sex in their answer...FUNNY! lol!
It all comes down to--you usually GET what you GIVE. You have to be a "good" husband to EXPECT a "good" wife. Simple as that.
2007-12-10 06:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Hi nice question.
Good life is having good family, loving wife, childreen:)
Loving your wife, share your last bread with your family, serve as good as you can to your wife then childreen, be more responsibility, help to your wife in everything.
And do your job perfectly and without laziness.
Then you will have respect in your family and your life will be good life!
2007-12-10 06:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by farid_safarli 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
A friend of mine said the answer is a good husband.
2007-12-10 11:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
good wife if like the sole of his husband who always take care of him and always remain with her husband in difficulties
2007-12-10 05:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
simple..one that stands beside me in the rest of our life.and not to expect it to be perfect and be understanding.
2007-12-10 12:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by thomasj29108 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First and for most they have to be smart with common sense.
Also share some interest and want to try new things. The occasional anal sex. Sex 1-2 times a week min. Be good mother material and always try to better herself.
2007-12-10 05:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michael 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋
one that's on the same page as me..as far as goals,kids..whatever
2007-12-10 05:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋