OK so I got Married Right before I turned 17. We had a little courthouse wedding and the only people who were there was the two witnesses. I am now 19 still with him and happily married. After 2 years ok so my thing now is I wish i could have a beautiful wedding to look back at with a big ceremony. Is it stupid to do a secound wedding after 3 years of marriage? How common is it?
2007-12-10 04:37:53 · 33 answers · asked by mommy_stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sorry but you made your choice 2 years ago. That was your wedding. You can have an anniversary party but you're already married so the wedding is over.
2007-12-10 04:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 6⤊ 5⤋
You are already MARRIED, so a wedding is out of the question.
You can renew yoru vows, but that is reserved for a 10 year anniversary and more. Anything less than that would be in extremely bad taste.
You already had a wedding, there is only one day to do that. If yu are so happily married, you can wait until your 10th wedding anniversary if you want to do things right. When yo do a vow renewal, there is no need for a white elaborate dress, no flower girls or bridesmaids, no showers and no bachelorette parties, again, you are a married woman so doing that would be out of place and peopel will laugh behind your back if you do.
In my social circle, no one has done a re-do, so I don't think is common as you say it is. Everyone that I know has done it right the first time around.
Good luck
2007-12-10 06:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
honestly, I can see where you are coming from but I can also see where some people might think its ridiculous. You already got married and had a baby so its kind of late for the big expensive dress and the whole big weddding thing! Ive heard of people renewing thier vows but not after only 3 years and they dont usually have the big wedding setting. Unless you are planning on paying for this 100%, it sounds kind of rude to expect your parents to shell out the cash and have your guests buy you all of the presents and everything just so you can have a day of dress-up. If you are planning on paying for it, you might want to check into the cost of everything, You can do it on a budget but then you will look back in 3 years and wish you would have done something bigger. Unless you get divorced, weddings are supposed to be a one in a lifetime thing, so if you do plan and pay for the big special day, I'd do it big the first time!
2007-12-10 05:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by katie-bug 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As for your question, no it is not common. For gosh sakes, you want a vow renewal, and you're still a teenager? What in the world will you want after 5 years? A wedding on the moon?
Anniversary party, fine, but a wedding is for people to get married, and you are already married. One bite of that apple!
If anyone who is married (and everyone knows it), had a big foofy dress-wearing, cake-cutting, bouquet-throwing, garter-tossing, gift-getting, shower-having champagne-toasting bash, it would not be called a WEDDING, it would be called a FARCE.
2007-12-10 06:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never met anyone who did, and I have met a wide variety of people. I tend to think it's not near as common as most people believe it to be. I also have a friend who is a pastor and he has never once seen this done in all his years, regardless of where he lived.
I would never do it but that's just me. I can also see where some people wouldn't agree with the idea at all.
You can have an anniversary party if you want. But you will get alot of flak for having a big fancy renewal of vows, especially so soon after the original wedding. Save the lavish party for your 10th anniversary.
2007-12-10 05:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by *Miss_Autumn* 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a tough call.... how do it without being tacky and making it look like a REDO and just looking like your mooching for gifts... Wait 5 years and do a vow renewal which is different then a wedding.
Redo weddings are in bad taste and look like your showing off... beside won't you want to go on vacation for 2 months... instead of paying thousands for a wedding? Really think about it and could the money be used for a better thing- like a home, home improvement or new furniture.
If you have money to flush down the toilet then do it but I would prefer to improve my everyday life instead of blowing it on a party.
Also- please don't have a shower.... and the tradition things that are done with a wedding- it's very tacky after your married.
Please see my questions- I had a friend who insisted on doing a redo and lost all her friends because of it. People don't want to spend money and buy bridesmaids dress for a married couple wanting to relive something.
2007-12-10 04:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
Wedding, no...Renew your vows, yes. My fiance and I contemplating doing the same thing 5 or 10 years from now because we're not able to afford the "wedding of our dreams" right now. I would say if you do it, keep it small and slightly informal. Do a destination get-away with a small group of close family and friends and maybe have a casual party when you get back. Include something in the invitation that makes it clear you do not expect gifts (I don't know...."in lieu of gifts, please bring a covered dish"!). Good luck and congratulations on your successful marriage!!
2007-12-10 06:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~Gemini~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it were me I would either take a cruise-think second honey moon. Or have a big barbecue. Call me dumb, but that is the wedding I've always wanted. My husband is Italian so I had to have a bigger wedding. But if you want something that doesn't look like an obvious wedding with the dress and tuxes, that's the way to go. And you don't have to go crazy planning and spending money.
2007-12-10 04:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by shavon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's not common, you are already married, so you don't get a 'do over' wedding!
Wait til your 25th, then you can have a renewal of vows ceremony and anniversary party.
2007-12-10 23:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was overseas in the navy and she and her bf were married there. When they returned home 2 years later they had a big church wedding and reception, very nice. They wanted every one to see them be married and celebrate with them. I think that is okay. I would maybe just ask family and friends to see if they would attend, I'm sure they would. Good luck.
2007-12-10 05:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by ttc #2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's common, and I don't think it's right. In my mind, you get one wedding to the same person. The wedding is what the wedding was--no do-overs. I don't know how you can "get married" when you're already maried. I think it's ridiculous for a married couple to throw a party and call it a wedding, expecting gifts, and showers and parties, a poufy wedding dress and a bunch of attendants. I think it's great that you're happily married, but you've already had your wedding.
2007-12-10 05:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋