So this past friday things where abruptly broken up between us because she said she just lost feelings, and was very confused, and didnt know who she was, I was in shock, now on saturday she calls me and we talk and at the end of the call she says "I love you". Sunday in the morning, same thing as saturday we talk and everything seems like it might be ok, she doesnt call me later but I see her online and shes deleting all of are pics off photobucket/myspace, and says her "friends" are what she needs, these are the same friends who caused her to drink and hate life before. So I call her and shes says its over get it through your head and also says some very hurtful things. Later that night she calls me and says shes sorry for saying those hurtful things and that shes just very cofused, and says she loves me. Now this is killing me inside, because i love her more then anything so everytime she calls it gives me hope. but i think thats hurting more then just cutting it right now, help????
2007-12-10 03:15:32 · 16 answers · asked by Mars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and on sunday night, i find that she was on the phone talking to guy "friends", what is she doing please, help
2007-12-10 03:15:47 · update #1
shouldnt her parents talk to her or somthing, because these "friends" are telling her to drop me, but there bums who drink and party all the time
2007-12-10 03:15:59 · update #2
Iam feeling so much pain right now, Iam shaking and sick
2007-12-10 03:16:12 · update #3
why does she keep on calling me, PLEASE help me understand
2007-12-10 03:16:36 · update #4
when you love some one, and know this isnt the real them, shes not like this and its sad
2007-12-10 03:23:14 · update #5
Its time to be the mature one, tell her that you need a break (weeks) from her. Not being with her or talking with her for a while will give you a chance to step back and look at the situation without the disruption that she is causing. It might open you eyes to what is going on with her. You can also be her friend but just not the way that you once were.
There're too many great great girls out there for you to be miserable like this.
Dont feel guilty about leaving her...but you can feel sad for her. You deserve more. You deserve better.
2007-12-10 03:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by BigShot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through so much right now. You can't save people from themselves. I know this is painful and every call is like ripping the wound open all over again.
Your friend sounds very, very confused. For your own mental health, it might be best to just ask her not to call you right now. She sounds like she's searching and maybe likes the drama a bit too much. Try to stay focused on your own life and not get caught up in her stuff. If she is confused and doesn't know who she is, she, quite frankly, cannot make any rational decisions about you or your relationship.
Give her space. If she is for you, she'll be back. Then it will be up to you if a drugging, dishonest, hurtful person still looks good and has a place in your life.
2007-12-10 11:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she calls, ask why she is calling, because to say I love you, and do the things she's doing is not love. She might be confused, but she isn't stupid. She is playing a game, let her calls go to voice mail. Life is to short to play games. Go out enjoy life( that doesn't mean you have to find a new girl, until your sure this is not working out) When she finds out she is losing someone good she will come to her senses, or you will find out she is not the girl you want to spend your life with. The choice of how you want to be treated is up to you.
2007-12-10 11:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you to "leave her alone" but no matter what ..... I hate to say this but you are going to continue to involve yourself with this person because of how you feel about her. Regardless of how much pain she's causing you, you are going to go "back & forth" with it until you get hurt so bad that you continue to hurt and mess with her, then you'll get so sick and tired of her and the situations with her that you'll finally let go and you'll hate her and never look back. At that point nothing she says will get you back.
Yes its true she's confused & doesnt know what she wants. Or she's giving in to peer pressure. Or maybe she even has a hand in both sides of the fence (her friends and you) - and you all are on two different pages - when she's with her friends she's on a page that you arent on - and when she's with you, she's on a page her FRIENDS aren't on - so its a crazy thing and I doubt it changes any time soon. Either she's going to wind up in a very bad position with herself and she's going to hurt like hell and go thru some really painful sh*t with herself and take you down with her, or she's going to snap out of it and get her head together & make up her mind, or you're going to get to a point that you're sick of it and you're going to leave it alone.
But I can tell you really have feelings for the girl & you're not going anywhere anytime soon. I just hope it works out for the better for you SOONER than later, because that kind of pain and "confusion" and "drama" is one of the worst kinds to go through.
2007-12-10 11:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing mind games with you for the fun of it. She probably has some mental problems. She's not in love with you and she just like having you as a Yoyo on her pinky finger just for the fun of it. Its time for you to stop being her pawn in her sick mental games. Toss out everything that reminds you of her and lose her number and myspace page then Move on.
âªâ«Tweedle Dee...Tweedle Dumâªâ«
2007-12-10 11:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♫Tweedle Dee♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think she's got a split personality or something. The only thing i can say to you is: If you care about her very much, you can't be afraid of losing her. Some people freak out when they get too close.
2007-12-10 11:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lacie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a mix between the second and thrd answer. My ex was just like that. She would just switch on and off, she told me the whole, I don't know who I am thing, and it all ended up with her cheating on me. I would say look for someone else because you shouldn't need to put up with that kind of stuff. I know what it's like, and it sucks. Trust me.
2007-12-10 11:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by JustinSane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is obvious this person had become like a drug to you,, or a cancer.. she is eventually going to be the death of you... you cannot let her.... there is someone out there no matter what you think that wants to love you and take care of you emotionally and not beat you down... she is using you as a cruch,,, if you need her it allows her to feel good,, but she is the one that needs you to be her cruch to feel good jus tcut all ties and think about the mean stuff whenever you miss her and you will be over her before you know it.. if you need someone to talk to you can email me at jessicabrown6487@yahoo.com hope i helped
2007-12-10 11:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by jessica b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get older you will realise that 'some girl at school' isnt the be all and end all of everything. just dont fall in love so easily and move on . get overrrrrr it totallyyyyyy whateverrrrrrrr!
2007-12-10 11:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up dude; let her fiends.. ahem, '' friends'', have her.. Think about it, If her friends talk her into meeting new guys while you have a relationship, or erasing pics, they're probably talking her into calling you, to F with your head... shes a 'Bobblehead'.... move on mate.
2007-12-10 11:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by john w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋