I like this guy who is so attractive. I mean I really like him. He is everything I want in a man. an actor, singer, drum major, instrumental, and he is just all around talented. The only problem is that I am lack and he is white. He lives in an all white town. When I went to his play this weekend I was the only ethnic person there. I really like him and I think he likes me too. what should I do? Should I confront him or not?
2007-12-10 03:09:04 · 42 answers · asked by She can't love you! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not a problem. Who cares?
This is the 21st century, right? I have never heard of an all white town before....where is it, South Dakota or something? Anyway, no matter who you are, some ppl will not approve of you for some reason. You could be not rich enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough...blah blah blah. So there will always be those who find some reason not to like you, no matter what your race! Anyway, just be yourself, and talk to him is my advice.
2007-12-10 03:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This ain't apples and oranges, honey. There is very little difference in how people react to new experiences, be they Black, White or Asian. The biggest problem you'll face is his family and friends, with whom you haven't yet been acquainted...so, you're walking into the great unknown. People in small communities tend to be rather limited insofar as exposure to other cultures is concerned, except for what they've seen on TV and as a rule are rarely open to new ideas. So, make sure you can deal with that mentality and possibly opposition before you dive in headlong. You'll also have to try not to automatically become defensive at every turn, which is another natural human reaction. You might want to watch your step until you know how he feels or at least have a good idea what kind of racial interaction he's had up to this point. Good luck and I wish you all the best...
2007-12-10 03:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Race, color or ethnicity shouldn't be a problem no matter what kind of relationship you are in. You should talk to him about this. Be calm and simply ask what he thinks about interracial relationships. How would his family feel, etc...Men don't like to be on the spot about things, so try to be cool; have a simple conversation and listen (you know how we women are).
Secondly, my sister is in an interracial relationship and things are working out great for her. You just have to be open.
2007-12-10 03:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to ask this question if you really like him, as far as im concerned thats like asking if you should go out with someone just because they dont have the same colour hair or eyes, a human being is a human being what ever their race. My ex and the father of my child is thai and I am white and I did not even stop to care about what he was and my child is the most beautiful child in all the world
2007-12-10 03:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and go for it! So what if you are the only ethnic person in a crowd? That is NO big deal. Think of the person and the relationship itself, dont pay attention to your skin colors....I mean this is 2007 who cares about that anymore? Wish you both the best.
2007-12-10 03:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are the product of their families, not necessarily their actual carbon copies. The fact that his family lives in a 'safe' lil pocket of white-hood may not reflect on him at all. I would just drop the racial tensions all around and take it for what it is, you like a guy. Tell him, his family may disown him in the process but you probably don't want an extended family like that anyway.
2007-12-10 03:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no color, you can be happy with a person of a different color. Confronting him will give you a better outlook about how he feels towards you. You have nothing to lose by discussing this with him, and you may be a winner. Never know until you try. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 03:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should confront him. I think interracial dating is dangerous. You have a lotta people who still will attack you for that sorta thing. Did you just read about the Black girl in West Virginia who was dating the White guy and then his friends gang raped and tortured her after they got drunk at a party? The whole while they were violating her, they were throwing racial slurs at her. Where I live, the South, this sorta thing happens often & the women (Black & White) just aren't reporting it. Be safe. This is one of America's "dirty little secrets".
2007-12-10 03:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by lil star 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank god we live in 2007! In todays society that should NEVER apply. Race, religion,culture etc. Dont sweat it girl! Your race shouldn't be holding your back from confronting him and telling him your feelings. If he turns you down because of the color of your skin. Then his true colors comes out, Besides who would want to be with someone like that?
2007-12-10 03:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you like him. See what happens. Make sure he treats you like a lady and is polite too. No need to worry about skin color these days unless you are talking about people with a sub-par intelligence. Those folks can be dangerous and are still swimming in the shallow end f the gene pool
2007-12-10 03:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋