Is it possible to carry a torch for an ex for the rest of your life?
2007-12-10 02:14:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the answer is a YES.
to elaborate, you can never forget any of your ex-bfs/gfs (i only mean the serious ones). i mean, they will always be a part of your life, with your experiences and memories together.
however, you can always move on with your life without him/her again. the key is never to compare him/her to any of your future bfs/gfs. the more you compare your ex'es to your current partner, there will always be the possibility that you will love your ex more than your current simply because your ex might be better at somethings your current is not good at. just remember that every relationship is unique and that every individual deserves a chance to get your love whole-heartedly.
2007-12-10 02:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Feline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa, it is very possible but you need to start to do new things. Find new goals and values for your relationship and move on. I think we tend to focus on what was familiar and not what is right in the first place. It is like buying a car and it gave you a bunch of problems, then selling it and then worrying why did you sell it. You sold it because it gave you problems, just like your ex once did.
2007-12-10 02:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Mrs. Haversham did, in the Dickens's novel "Great Expectations".
The normal thing to do is have a sad, sweet spot in your heart, which grows smaller each year, to think of him (her) every time you hear a certain song or eat a certain flavor of ice cream cone, and get on with your life. We all (All of us geezers with checkered pasts, at least) wonder about paths not taken now and again, in the still quiet moments at night when the cat decides to sleep on your head, you toss him out of the room and can't get back to sleep for 30 - 60 minutes.
2007-12-10 02:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible and dismayingly common to nurse grief or resentment of any kind for a very long time.
And - it's not healthy because it's an anchor tying one to the past; can't live life now (all we really have) if always looking over one's shoulder at what was.
2007-12-10 02:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly, I don't think I will ever forget my first girlfriend and thats probably due to the fact one day she moved interstate with no notice and broke my heart. That kind of thing you don't forget very easily, especially when she was also the first girl Ioved.
Of course it can be for other reasons as well but if it evokes strong emotions its more likely to stay with you for a long period of time or even your entire life.
2007-12-10 02:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you could, but if you want to move on, you will let them go. I have an ex, and after I realized how much i was being abused, mentally, emotionally and physically, I didn't miss him anymore. I was free... it all depends on how you feel about it, I am sure in time it will not be there anymore.. but you have to let that ex go. DO not let them stay i n your heart forever, they are not worth it if you are no longer together!
2007-12-10 02:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by alizajane904 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definite, its plausible, yet i does no longer attempt & screw his new courting up. do no longer hear to the folk who're asserting that going returned out with an ex by no skill works because of the fact it does. It in simple terms relies upon on explanation why you the two broke up interior the 1st place && if the two certainly one of you're keen to furnish it yet another attempt. however in some circumstances its superb to maintain the previous interior the previous. in elementary terms you may settle on what you go with. no person else can do this for you. sturdy success!!
2016-11-14 07:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think one should do this to him/herself...the memory might stay forever,whether good or bad...but,to carry a torch from the past and forget about ur present and future will not get u anywhere....
2007-12-10 02:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by zameensas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Either through guilt over letting them go, or stubborness by not letting go of the past.
Either way, it's YOU that controls the actual "getting over" part. The only way to NOT get over an ex is by not letting yourself get over them.
2007-12-10 02:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Haven't you heard of stalkers, and people killing their ex-spouses and what-not? People go nuts over this stuff.
You may want to try to control what you're thinking. That's the best way to deal with it. If you've forgotten what that's like, I daresay most of us learned it when we were 14 or 15, when we liked someone and they didn't like us back. You just have to force yourself to stop imagining yourself with that person.
2007-12-10 02:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Firebird 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋