Ok. How do I tell my boyfriend of 4 years that I'm not in love with him and just have been with him because he is a good guy? I also found someone else that I have the world in common with and want to be with him! This will be our 4th break up (All done by me) and I dont want him to hate me. I feel horrible about the situation, HELP!!!!!!
2007-12-10 02:05:04 · 3 answers · asked by Erica S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have nothing in common, barely see eachother, and we never go out and do anything as a couple. I go out with my friends and he goes out with his... we see eachother maybe once a week and we stay in. I almost feel like he just keeps me around for a consistant ****.
2007-12-10 02:09:42 · update #1
Whoa!!!! I'm looking for advice not info that would make me want to contemplate suicide!!!!! Dont be so harsh!
2007-12-10 02:13:55 · update #2
You need to stop getting back together with this loser! You have broken it off three times before and went back to him? Either you are too sentimental and clingy or he is too controlling and manipulative - in either case your relationship already sounds like it is trashed. Don't give him the goods if you don't even like him anymore - get real!
Tell him that you want more out of a relationship - just that. You do not need to define what more is - you want someone who wants to be more involved with you and your friends and who wants to take you out now and then. You want someone who has more time to spend with you and can't wait to be with you. You want someone who is hot for you - why not?
He will possibly be upset, and he may try to get back with you as soon as he finds out he wants something and has no where else to get it. But you need to stop getting back together with him in order to move on to someone else and he needs a real relationship too! He will be upset when he finds out you are seeing someone else, too. But you need to break up with him before you can start a relationship with this other guy, so you need to make your move. It will be hard to go through the holidays without someone if the timing does not work out, but you need to figure out if you are sticking around with Mr. Barely or moving on to Mr. Right.
2007-12-10 02:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. you stay with a guy you dont care about cause you like hes a good person. so you put his life on a hold for a relationship he was hopeful would work when you new better.....
B. you looked for someone else while with him.....
he is gonna be pissed rightfully so and i hope he hates you you waisted 4 yrs of his life because you are selfish....
2007-12-10 02:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've broken up with him four times, it's obvious you don't care about him, and he likely knows this. Just know that if you break up with him again, you can never go back, but if you don't love him, you shouldn't want to. Don't do it to feel secure in a relationship. Just get it over with. It's going to hurt him no matter what.
2007-12-10 02:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋