I don't know what to do. He cheated once I know he is really sorry for it. I forgave him. But it keeps eating me up inside, just the fact that he did it and I never expected it. I want this to work. How can it work?
2007-12-10 02:02:32 · 17 answers · asked by ♥вєαυтι♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have a one night stand with someone hot. Use protection. It's the only way. Two wrongs can make a right.
2007-12-10 02:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by lovebird 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Perhaps deep down you've not forgiven him. He cheated on you, which caused you a lot of hurt and pain. He disrespected you and your feelings. It's easy to say ok I fogive you but to actually do it takes time and work. You need to talk to him and perhaps hearing what made him cheat in the first place may put your mind at rest. Unless you can fully forgive and let all of this go you will never have a happy relationship with him so you may need to prepare yourself to move on. In the back of your mind you know he's done it before and even if he's vowed to never do it again because you don't know why he did it the first time, it's going to play on your mind will he do it again. He's ruined the trust that you had in him and that needs to be restored by him. Keep the lines of communication open with him if you want to work this out.
2007-12-10 02:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you "forgiving " your boyfriend and I'm sorry for the "loss". The questions is how long were you two together when this happened. All I can say is put God first make him your first love. Isaiah 48:17-18. God is the only one that can give you back what was lost. As for your boyfriend if you can honestly trust him relax he might not hurt you again.Read 1Corinthians13:4-8 .
2007-12-10 02:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kandi, over time the pain gets less but you will never forget it. You two need to sit down and establish goals for your relationship. Be very open with each other and talk about the desires for he relationship and not the expectations. Let it go if you go forgive and if it happens again move on. I'm sure you know that.
2007-12-10 02:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to forgive him as a individual, yet run faraway from him as a boyfriend. He cheated on you for goodness sakes. he will do it back. A leopard can not exchange its spots. in case you "forgive" him, then he's conscious of he can do it back. He might attempt greater good to maintain it a secret the subsequent cases, yet there will be next cases. the warm button is you need to tutor your self greater admire. He did no longer act as a gentleman and stay dedicated to you. that's never okay to cheat on somebody. If he end being fascinated in you and grew to become fascinated in somebody else, the 1st rate element to have completed could have been to interrupt up with you. He did no longer. i are conscious of it hurts to lose somebody. in case you have been with him a together as, you do no longer prefer to ought to pass in the process the soreness of ending a relationship. by potential of no longer ending it now, you're in user-friendly terms suspending the soreness, and whilst it comes back, it's going to be plenty worse. additionally, I vehemently disagree with the proposition of an before answer that's that maximum anybody cheats. i'm no longer that cynical, and that i relatively believer there are greater dedicated people who cheaters. Heaven help us if that may not real. suitable desires. Your coronary heart is telling you the nicely suited element to do...Sum up the braveness and do it. tell him pass wander off.
2016-10-10 23:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by maxey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i no it's hard but if he cheats on you the first time 9 times out of 10 his going to keep doing it and yeah it will eat you up inside you no that little voice in the back of your head telling to keep close watch listen to that voice it will help u trust me be there done that LISTEN!
2007-12-10 02:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by soulja girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the reasons why you still feel like you can not forgive him. Once you have those reasons you will understand why you are still not able to just let it go. Forgiveness is not something you can expect over night, if you really feel like you can forgive him, in time you will, but if really continues to eat you up like this, then maybe its time you come to realize it is not gonna work.
2007-12-10 02:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by zinistir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that although you forgave him, you can't forget it. Talk about it. Bring all the bad things out in the open and get them resolved. Communicate; that's the key to any relationship.
2007-12-10 02:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "Can you climb this mountain"?
The saying is true to it's word.
You have to be the one to strap on the boots and ride it out even if it is for a few months.
Take this feeling and tell your boyfriend what your feeling. Tell him if you ever do it again, I will never try again, because it truley is alot of work.
2007-12-10 02:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is tricky, I would say that you have not forgiven him yet.
You need to resolve this betrayal. If your boyfriend doesn't "really" atone for his cheating you will never get pass this.
Do you really want to be with someone who cheated and lied to you?
What will be it like if you should marry?
2007-12-10 02:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it cant because if its eating you up inside then you havent really forgiven him. unitl your ok with it, it will never work. me personally i would never forgive anyone for cheating on me, coz if they are sleepin with other people then they clearly dont want you
2007-12-10 02:10:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋