Looking for a Birth Mother, we were told she died but not sure if that is the truth.?

Question

how do you go about finding a birth mother from texas?

we dont have a name we just have the area (ft. worth) and of course the names of the people that adopted....

Answer 1

It seems many people don't know that standard procedure in a legal adoption is that records are both sealed, and a new birth certificate issued that shows the names of the adopting parents. Hospitals do not release birth records.. even if there was not an adoption.. that is the function of the state vital records dept. At this point in time.. privacy laws are so stringent that if my own adult daughter chose to restrict info.. they could not even tell me on the phone if she were admitted or not.
DEATH indexes ie ssdi are open, assuming the alleged death happened in about the last 50 yrs, but not searchable without even a name. Your question says "we"... does that mean siblings? that suggests to me that more than one is adopted at the same time, perhaps not an unwed parent thing, but maybe a termination of rights due to neglect or such?? If that is true, then it is possible that other relatives have been searching. It doesn't mean that Mom did not die, just that maybe the situation was against the will of the parent(s), and there could be others out there. Depending on the age.. maybe someone has vague memories.
If you can determine that is what happened, you might be able to keep asking, and I am not sure what state policy would be on that.
There is a large agency in Fort Worth, named Edna Gladney home (for unwed mothers). You could start with contacting them, even though they may not have handled the situation. They might still have persons who know of other resources.
http://www.cyndislist.com/adoption.htm
There also are many boards/ groups that offer tips and knowledge from those who have experienced searching.
You are welcome to send me a private note via my profile if you like.
edit-with all respect to mr. wiccan... you do not actually know that she did not die, as you have been told.

Answer 2

It is a bit difficult to find her without her name. You must request the information through your nearest Social Services office. They will most likely deny you the information at first, but still, you can appeal their decision to the county or State Court.

There's also a very simple option. Contact the Social Security Administration at 1-800-772-1213. They can also help you, free of charge. All you need is to write a letter to the SSA telling them the reasons why you want to find your mother. You must also write a separate letter to your mother and place it with a pre stamped envelop inside the envelope containing the letter for the SSA.

If the SSA finds nothing threatening in the letter you write to your mother, they will forward the letter to her. They will not give you her contact information. After they send the letter, it is up to your birth mother to contact you to the address and phone number you give her in your letter to her.

If someone, (eg. your step parents or grandparents), know or get a name and last name, then contact me and I will run a name check in our database to see if we can find her.

Answer 3

Find the agency that did the paper work on the adoption. Ask your parents if possible. They will have that info on file still. once you have a name it will be much easier to find her.
yes Brent is right as well, your original birth cretificate from the hosp you were born in hould have the name of at least your mom on it.

Answer 4

County birth records might contain this information. If your parents adopted you at birth, then chances are they at least met your mother. Otherwise, there exists somewhere original birth records with your birth name, your mother's name, and possibly your father's name.

Answer 5

as above plus not having a name and the adoption could be sealed making things very tough .

Answer 6

go onto the internet and search through old TX newspaper's obituaries.